To the one dealing with grief,
There is no limit on grief. You can grieve the death of somebody who lies next to your heart and you can grieve a shattered idea. Grief has a mind of its own. There are no rules. There is not a correct or incorrect way to deal with grief.
It just is. Grief just is. All you can do is have a healthy mindset and a strong support system and face the storm head on.
You won't "get over it." And it's alright to say that to people who tell you to just get over it.
You cannot change the events that occurred, no matter how much you wish you could. And I don't mean to sound harsh but that's reality. You don't have control over that. But you do have control over how you handle the situation and how you manage your grief.
There is no time limit to grief. You don't have to be done grieving within a set amount of time. Grieve at your own pace. I can't say it enough, I really can't. Do not rush grief.
We spend time grieving for many reasons. We have to accept the turn of events. We have learn how to make it to tomorrow while out mind is clouded by our situations. Everybody has different situations. Everybody handles things different and at different paces.
Take as long as you need to grieve. You do not need to handle grief the way others do. This isn't their grief, it's yours. You have to handle it in a way that's beneficial to you even if it doesn't make sense to those around you.
And it's okay to ask for help. We don't always know how to handle everything the proper way it should be handled. It doesn't hurt to have a couple people there to help you when you if you need it. It is okay.
A part of me likes to believe that we become stronger when we have people behind us. The same goes for grief. A method that works for one person may not work for you and vice versa. Being open to new ideas builds a larger foundation of opportunities and methods that may work well for you and the event you're grieving.
And, personally, the most important thing I have to remember is that I'm not alone. Neither are you. There's always people who will listen and help you throughout your grieving process, most having dealt with grief firsthand. We are standing here behind you. We will be here to help you up and walk with you if you stumble.
You are not alone. I promise you, you are not alone.
So to the one dealing with grief... hold on. Grieving is a long and exhausting process but let it run its course. Rushing grief is not beneficial, we are obviously grieving for a reason. But you do not have to do it alone.