Tips and DIYs for Girls

Advice Q&A #3

PSA : OMG I totally thought i posted this already but apparently there were some publishing issues that I JUST found out about so to anyone I'm giving advice to in this chapter, I am so so sorry and I apologize from the bottom of my heart :(

More advice! I absolutely love trying to help everyone out a little, it kinda helps me too so thank you to anyone who asked for advice, I know it's a vulnerable place to be, we've all been there ahah. I tagged whoever asked the question but if you're one of those people and would like your name removed, just let me know! Hope you get a few tips outta this!

Turning a Guy Friend Down:
cordiallyclaire
Q: "I'm going to hoco with this guy, who I'm 95% sure has a crush on me. I think he might ask me out afterwards but I don't like him that way. He's just a really good friend. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but it's unfair for both us to go into a relationship where the feelings aren't mutual. How do I turn him down if the situation arises?"

A: I would first try to figure out if he really does like you, because guys are all a little different. Also, make sure he knows you're going as friends. It may be a little difficult but it's easier on the heart if you mention it as early as possible. Say something like, 'hey I'm super excited to go to hoco with you but just to clarify we're going as friends right?' if he's upset about going as friends, say something along the lines of 'I don't want to force a relationship if I'm not sure of it but we'll see, you're an amazing person so don't feel down about it :)' Whatever you do though, don't lead him on. That's the easiest way to break someone's heart, so be straight forward but kind. Hope I helped! 💋💋
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Crushes:
forgotten-daughter
Q: "Okay I have a crush on two people, a guy and a girl (sorry if this is uncomfortable to some people but I need help). The girl is one of my greatest friends and we've been friends since 5th grade. She's smart, funny, supportive. She's just amazing. The guy on the other hand, is very different from the other jocks at my school. He has this laugh that makes you smile, his eyes sparkle at random times, he's quiet around other people, he's tall as hell, and a complete mystery to me... I confess I've never really talked to him, hell he barely knows I exist. The crush I have on the girl started 2-3 mo. ago, while the guy I've liked him since freshman year, and we're juniors now. I'll take whatever advice you can give."

A: First of all, I relate to your crush on the guy, he sounds just like the guy I've had thing for, for a while now. Anyway, it's totally okay to have two strong crushes at the same time, but usually one is a little stronger.  Is the guy in any of your classes? If he is, try to make it possible to talk to him, even just a little.  If you want to catch both of their attention, always show your personality around them even if you don't think they're is paying attention. If the guy is not in any of your classes, but is in a club, join that club (if you're interested ofc). Also, if you both have social media like Instagram, follow him on that. Get to know some of his friends too, see who he hangs out with, both girls and guys, and see if you can get close enough to them to add them on social media (Snapchat). If you have Snapchat, add him! Watch a couple of his stories, not all. If you can, try to start a streak with him, and start mini conversations like what was homework, are you on the __ team?, etc. I'm sorry I can't give specific advice since I don't know what exact situations you're in but yeah. I don't have much to say about the girl but definitely let her know how you feel when it's right. Not telling her would make you feel anxious for quite a while, so even if she acts differently for the following days, it's better you let her know than keeping it inside, that is, unless it's just a tiny crush. Overall, be yourself, reach out to them because they won't get to know you if you don't introduce  yourself, and go for one person at a time. Going for both at the same time can lead to an emotional wreck and stress so keep it simple for now, step by step. This was long but I'd be more than happy to give more advice if you need more, just PM me for further questions. :)

[Sorry, that's all the questions i got! Also im so sorry if I answered your question too late but i hope it still helps. Thank you so much for reading!]

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