What I wish I knew as a student...✐

13. Relationship advice 💞

A good chapter. Since valentine's day was just around the corner, I've been thinking about it xD

And hey, this doesn't define your love towards someone else.

It's just a chapter for the ones needing advice for relationships, especially for people new to this life chapter.

1. Love yourself first 🥰

We all have flaw and some are very extreme in our opinion.

However, you are enough. Nobody is perfect and nobody can be perfect.

You can only make the best version out of yourself.

You don't need someone to love you first.

Find yourself and learn to love yourself,before you allow someone in your life.

2. Commitment and Loyalty 💝

Don't start a relationship when you're not ready.

Of course you can never be ready, but you need to be self assured that you're going through this.

Not alone but together.

You are one with your partner.

Make sure you are committed to listen to one another, help one another and trust one another.

Treat them how you want to be treated and loved.

For instance, you surely don't want to be cheated on, right?

3. Don't expect them to be your BFF🫂

Okay hear me out. You could be dating your best friend right now and this wouldn't make any sense at all.

But what I mean is, a best friend relationship and an actual love relationship is different.

You expect them to fulfill your needs like a best friend. But if they can't fulfill that need you will get disappointed and even worse, seek these traits through others.

And it might seem normal to just replace them, as you know.

Best friends can easily be replaced, when you must.

4. Actions speak louder than words 💋

" I love you, I need you, I miss you "...

Don't get me wrong again. I love this little things as much as you do.

This words are like honey in one's mouth.

Sweet and addicting.

But how sincere are they?

You need to show effort in a relationship.

Just because you won them once, doesn't mean you keep them.

Win their heart over and over again.

It doesn't necessarily have to be materialistic things. More like making coffee for them in the morning, stacking up the fridge with their favorite food or color.

5. Talk about your emotions
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Your partner needs to learn how to listen well and the other way around.

Be mindful and considerate of one another.

Don't be self-centered and toxic.

Talk about what bothers you, not just what makes you happy.

Don't even try to hold back, if it breaks you. May it be financial problems, anxiety, distrust...

In a relationship, you should share your pain and joy together.

Pray for one another and find solutions together.

6. Fighting productively👊

No one wants to fight one another, more like fight for each other.

In all relationships there will be certain times when the balance breaks and you fight one another.

So to sum it up, there is no such thing as perfect relationship.

But there's a strong and loyal one, so aim for that. 💪🏽

When you fight, try repeating their words first before you comment. -> "mirroring"

When you're having an important discussion with your partner, repeat back exactly what you heard them say before you comment on it. For example, something like "So what you're saying is, you think we need more time for just us without friends or kids around?" is more effective.

This not only dramatically improves the accuracy and quality of communication by allowing for correction of misinterpretations, but also creates of strong sense of being heard and understood in each partner.

7. Love your partner everyday❣

Remember the first time you met each other?

Out of a billion people in the world,it had to be them...

A miracle isn't it?

Never forget why you wanted to be with them in the first place and I'm not talking about just the looks.

There must be more than it otherwise this ain't love mate.

With this motivation, walk in the day and love them ❤