Anidita: Falling Apart

Glory Grows Guilty of...

Detested Crimes. When for fame's sake, for praise, an outward part, We bend to that the working of the heart

Contd. from last chapter...

Anirudh's POV

"Dada, I grew up watching you advocating 'Equality' Batuk continued "The rights of men you are talking about, resonates with the idea of fair justice for both genders. So does, the objective of real feminism that sustains social, economic and political equality for females also.
Ages ago, when you fought hard for education rights of women against the gender stereotypes, you followed the true ideal of feminism, that aims to improve academic and professional opportunities for every woman, especially girls like and those rescued from Heera Mandi who were subjected to long cycle of social exploitation under evil customs that prioritised the perspectives of overbearing males since post vedic period. However, the definition of the term Toxic Feminism can vary depending on the source.

"It sounds really surprising to hear such deep thought provoking speech from you Batuk" I replied in an unusual lower pitch, upturning my lips with a sense of disdain in my eyes "It's good to see how my youngest brother has evolved quickly to impart his deep knowledge on social ideals to me using great oratory skills! But Batuk, this is not a school auditorium where an elocution competition is running.
Toxic femininity in a woman relates to using her "feminine" qualities to frame innocent men as the offender for exploiting the woman. She restricts her behavior to fit stereotypically feminine traits that men supposedly find influential enough to surrender to, like repeatedly judging his character by exaggerating his past mistakes. I see, you are moving forward to justify and defend Bondita's vengeance driven actions by neatly associating it with ideology of equality. But remember Batuk, an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."

"I see your point Dada" Batuk replied scratching his cheek thoughtfully "So now, imagine for a moment You strike me first, and pull out my left eye. I do not retaliate and forgive you for your mistake plus I run away to hide myself. You follow me to my shelter and pull out my right eye too, chopping down both my hands alongside. You end up victorious, winner and owner of my organs while I end up completely handicapped, helpless. Does your proverb make sense that moment? No, it does not apply then.
In fact, I should have fought and retaliated in the first stance itself when you took my left eye. I think it is natural to push back when people keep on pushing you.

Now Yes, Toxic or Pseudo-feminism is a bitter and dark drawback of Feminism principle, that was originally implemented to safeguard well-being of womankind, to protect her interests from regressive subjugations meted upon her for generations.
But with the passage of time, a certain class of women from the creamy layer like us, born with a silver spoon in their mouth, take an undue advantage of the prevailing feminist ideals and breach the faith of her husband. Such women are like the wolf disguised as ill-grandma and men to them are Red Riding hoods. They take their blind love & care for granted which her fellow counterparts can hardly dream of. They harass, abuse, cheat and even falsely malign their spouse & his family to get her work done. Such resentful infliction undeniably affects the man's health and well-being by increasing his stress levels, sabotaging his sense of identity, contributing to a sense of weakness leading to unhealthy relationships.

But these women escape the wrath of law and falsely pretend to be a victim of patriarchy using the trick of emotional blackmail.
Such women neglect to value her rights whose price was paid by her synergies through harrowing inflictions from society.
Dada, your childhood beloved Saudamini and desired wife Manorama are such women, born and raised in landlord families. Now, you can argue that your beloved wife was illiterate and harmless unlike Saudamini, who was educated, an accomplished cook and a piano player too. Yet, barring the literacy factor if you observe, both your beloveds were never pushed into social misconducts like Bondita was done multiple times. Additionally, your Manorama was privileged enough to stay away from learning kitchen chores till she became your wife.