"One of my colleague comes to work at 9:00.
She has one hour permission to come late as she has very young daughters whom she has to send to school and day care.
One day our Principal (gent) called her and said "Madam you need to come to work at 8:00 as time table is not getting adjusted....it's a matter of one month"
She requested him but he paid no interest.
She had to suffer for 30 days running from home to work and then work to home with small kids.
Again he came one day and said " That's why I told my wife to stay at home and look after kids. First family then money. She happily quit the job and is looking after kids and home. All are happy"
My colleague wanted to give back but kept her cool.
What is use of arguing or explaining your plight to a person who cannot understand a woman's difficulties in handling both family and work.
If people think that they are right with their decision then let them feel that they are absolutely right.
Not all are blessed with good bank balances, parental properties or high salaried husbands.
Our life our decisions !! "
author:CH.LAVANYA
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" We resent eachother.
We always think we want what we can't have.
The SAHM Mum wants to socialise with adults, have disposable money and pursue her own personal goals. She hates being confined to one space that never seems clean no matter how much scrubbing and putting-away she does. She feels like she has no sense of identity and that others look down on her for choosing to raise her children instead of contributing to greater society. She hates being dependent on her spouse for all financial mattets.
The working Mum resents the fact that she's not the one raising her child/ren. She hates that most of her money goes into daycare and she worries about the impact of leaving her children in someone else's care for up to 10 hours a day. She wants to be there for her kids, but she also knows that if she didn't work she wouldn't be able to put a roof over her children's heads and food on the table.
I've been in both situations and neither feel good.
Truth is, society doesn't like Mums that much. We are expected to do it all. We should be holding down a steady full time job. We should have a well developed career that rivals that of our spouse. We should have a million stories about work related mishaps and fun times. We should be available to our bosses and coworkers at the drop of a hat and free to work long hours without consequence.
But we should also be simultaneously raising emotionally balanced and confident children with decent morals and values. We should also be keeping a house that's spotless and cooking main meals and keeping our children in perfect health. Our identity is both found and lost as a mother and caregiver to our children.
No matter which side you choose, you're wrong according to someone else.
The solution? Just be happy with what you have and stop listening to greater society. Working Mum or SAHM, we face two entirely different sets of problems and need to support each other instead of condemn.
(Nothing worse than being on one side of the coin and being subject to heavy criticism by the other side. It's very devaluing as a person). "
Writer: Leah J.mack, former Homemaker at Stay-at-Home Parents (1998-2004)
