Sometimes we think that we are obliged to carry the burden of others or to commit to doing work that a certain person must do because he/she is the one who holds the responsibility to take care of it. If someone asks for a favor, it's okay to say "yes." However, it will also somehow mean that you are saying "no" to yourself. You opted out of the opportunity to make something for yourself to mature and cultivate skills that might assist you in the future.
Carrying the responsibilities of others means you are the one who's learning or growing—and not them. Taking every bit of chance and being obliged to do so means you are throwing away your ME time and proceeding to make time for others. You are growing, though, but you feel unfulfilled after doing the tasks of others.
Thus, if I am the one to ask "YES," it's a NO to be obliged every time and to take care of someone's activity. I have learned that sacrificing your self-growth for others means that you are letting them become dependent on you, and you are letting yourself stay unsatisfied because of the pressure that you have to face.
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