r/AmIOverreacting
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5m ago
Intelligent-Night299
am i overreacting when it comes to my boyfriend's behavior?
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i started dating a guy about a week ago. i know it may be silly but we had literally met the day we started dating, WHICH I KNOW IS STUPID
we were facetiming, planning to play some minecraft together that night when he dropped the "i really like you" bomb on me and was obviously wanting me to be his girlfriend. i had flirted with him a little bit, so i felt like i had fucked up (i gave a foot, he took a mile). when i hesitated, he got upset and started rambling about how he always ruins everything. i felt really bad so i tried to explain that maybe it's a bit early for that, and he continued with the "ruining everything" act. i tried to explain i had just gotten out of a relationship and wasn't really looking for anything, but i felt so guilty for making him feel so upset. i caved, and reluctantly agreed to be his girlfriend. sure, he's cute, he's got charm, but i had no clue what was to come.
i started feeling pretty good about my decision. he gives me a lot of attention, has basic human empathy, and seems to like me a lot, which is good, but i quickly noticed something was off. he had told me how when he was a child, something very awful happened to his parents in front of him, and i was a bit shocked by his willingness to tell me this even having just met me, and felt a bit odd at his vulnerability. i brushed it off and comforted him to the best of my ability, trying my best to keep myself from seeming uncomfortable in fear of hurting his feelings. he continued to open up to me about more, very serious things that made me feel a bit odd. i noticed the stories got more complicated, they changed, they danced around, and i got the idea that maybe he could be a pathological liar.
of course, im no psychologist, but he tells me that he gets beat up every day. like, every day. he tells me about getting slammed to the ground and beat up, but when i see him, not a single injury on his body. i don't know if it's a play for pity, if he's genuinely telling the truth, or if he's just lying for the sake of lying. anyways, i continued to nod along with sympathy, unsure of what to do or say.
another odd thing, is he repeatedly kept begging me not to leave him, even if i had just not responded to a text for like, five minutes. it irked me a bit, but i tried to brush it off the best i could and just consider that maybe he's got a bad past.
however, tonight, i told him i would be playing minecraft with my bestie. he said it was okay, and i immediately felt a lump in my throat because i knew i would be bombarded with texts about how depressed he is without me and how much he needed me only an hour into playing with her. i was right. he kept texting me, wouldn't stop, sent out of pocket messages, unsent them, sent more messages, it just kept on coming. it was worse than usual tonight, and i felt myself reaching a tipping point.
im considering breaking up with him or just blocking him altogether. i really have enough going on in my life and can't afford to be watching after a man child every second of every day. im a bio major ffs, i have enough on my plate between labs and studying. i genuinely am feeling sick to my stomach about this issue.
i confronted him tonight a bit about how i felt, and he just begged me not to leave him. i said i wouldn't, as per usual, but i can't keep digging myself deeper into this hole. i told him i need to be left alone, at least for the rest of tonight, and hung up, and he hasn't stopped texting me since. he's currently texting me as i write this, and im genuinely at a loss for what to do.
am i overreacting???
