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A Relationship of Errors!!!!

A Relationship of Errors!!!!!!

When a relationship before marriage is forbidden in Islam then why does Allah create opportunities for us to be with a certain person?

This was something that i found myself thinking before i realized how stupid i was being.

I mean, shouldn't i blame satan for playing this game?

And it could be a test for us, to see how much patience and faith we have too, right?

After all we all know the famous saying soo very well ' a teacher teaches a lesson and then takes the test, while God, He takes the test, then teaches a lesson.'

Old or young, rich or poor, boy or girl, Allah tests you through out your life. Tests you with your patience, with your sacrifices, with your FAITH.

For someone, their patience while dealing with their parents or children might be their test.

For others it might be how they sacrificed something or someONE for the sake of Allah.

The forbidden fruit is after all always the most tempting and sweetest. And satan is never far behind to tempt us towards the forbidden goods.

Probably thats why a relationship before marriage which is absolutely forbidden is somehow being seen these days as if its totally right.

Whenever i ask people how their relationship came to pass, they say 'it happened because we guess Allah wanted it to happen' but how can something which is forbidden in Islam, was made unlawful by Allah Himself, is all of a sudden lawful or right for them because ' Allah made them enter each others life, made their paths to cross and mingle?'

Time and time again i've seen very religious people, who excel in their faith, fall head over heels for this particular forbidden act. And a few, even think that it's not a bad thing that they are doing because (i donno if i should say fortunately OR unfortunately) their partner is also very much religious, with excellent faith too.

What we fail to see is that, no matter how religious a person is, if Allah doesnt like something and therefore made it unlawful or forbidden, then it is unlawful and forbidden for EVERY MUSLIM, MAN OR WOMEN, PIOUS OR NOT.

Unlawful or haraam is a word which means a prohibited thing. Prohibited because it does us more harm than good. And since Allah the All-Knowing Lord made relationship before marriage unlawful, we are just messing up our life and our heart by NOT following it.

If nothing else then see the temptations as a test. To see your patience, sacrifice and faith in the Almighty.

Remember that

1. YOU HAD A CHOICE. It was YOUR choice, to enter into a relationship with that person.

2. Remind yourself who your utmost priority is towards. Ur Lord? Or your relationship? ( which by the way i feel the need to mention again that its forbidden)

3. He would never let any sacrifice of ours go to waste.

And either we will get back our love in a halal (lawful) way by entering into matrimony with them, or Allah would reward us with a far better spouse. But He wont let our sacrifice go to waste.

And never forget that want we didnt get during our life, while we were alive, Allah promised to give us that in the hereafter.

So even after everything, if you want to be with a person you loved, you can choose him in Jannah.

And whats more its Jannah we are talking about, where EVERYTHING is ours, made only for us, where we can do ANYTHING, wear whatever we want, eat whatever we want and everything which was unlawful on earth will be lawful there.

And so dont risk your afterlife for this life which will be taken away from you even before you begin to actually live it.

When you love someone so very much, and your love is pure, like for your child or for your parents or your spouse, you make big dreams in your head for that person. And believe me you wouldn't want whats good for that person because you would be aiming for the best.

Allah has our WHOLE life planned out for us. Would you think He would let us get away with something good when He knows that He has the power to give us THE best?

Little kids hardly ever like to share there sweets with others. But when you know a kid who doesnt like to share his/her sweet but shares only with you because he/she loves you that much, then if anyone of you, if you've experienced it yourself would know how it would feel, how you either wont eat it and give it back to the child with a 'thank you' grin or would after taking it, offer the child something more better to have him/herself.

Now imagine someone sacrificing the love of a living, breathing person just to show you how much you mean to him/her, would you just watch the person suffer after he/she made the sacrifice for you? Then why in the world would one think that Allah ta'aala would be so cruel and do nothing while you wait for your heart to heal !!!!!

If you dont get the same person whom you sacrificed back then, remember it was because Allah ta'aala has an even better 'lover' for you. An even better spouse.

Never forget ' Allah puts people in your life for a reason and removes them from your life for a better reason.'

Everything we do in this world is a

test. Everything we go through makes us a better or less than better Muslim. Every decision we make either brings us closer to Allah or takes us away from Him and towards satan.

And ever more never forget that a REAL man will offer you marraige, an ignorant will offer you zina (fornication).

But since the times have changed, alotttt more, i should also say that a REAL Muslimah (Muslim women) would wait for her man, while an ignorant girl would offer zina (fornication).

Lastly let me end this by saying everyone has their story, everyone makes mistakes, every person matters especially to Allah. And it is Allah alone who has the right to judge, not you and definately not me. This is life, and people make mistakes. But then again 'once a mistake, but twice a choice' is i guess another quote which fits in best.

And also the hadith where satan had told Allah that he would lead humans astray with there every breath, and Allah had said that He would forgive them as soon as they repented and not do it again.

Allah understands you, you know. He truely does understand our sufferings and our choices and He just well understands us.

And so He will forgive us in a heartbeat, provided we repent and only when we learn from our mistakes, we take a step away from satan (a really big one) and a lot more steps towards Allah.

May Allah protect us all from the forbidden acts and from the whispers of satan towards temptations. Ameen.