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Allah's Word or Your Desires

I asked my sister, who is a teenager, to write this piece. Ive done a little bit of editing and a little bit of adding and i hope you guys enjoy this piece as well as learn and apply it in your lives. :)

A simple question what does islam say about love?

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "We do not think that there is anything better for those who LOVE one another than MARRIAGE." (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1847; classed as saheeh by al-Busayri and by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 624)

A relationship between a man and a woman before/outside of marriage, which is, what is called an unlawful relationship, is haraam. Regardless of the level of this relationship.

Whether it goes as far as an intimate relationship or zina (sexual relationship), which is one of the major sins that poses the greatest danger to the individual's religious commitment and faith, or it is less than that, such as looking, touching or kissing. All of that is haraam and these are types of zina in the general sense, and are things that lead to the greater immoral action.

Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: It is better that your head be pricked with an iron needle than that anyone from among you touch a non-Mahram woman.  (Mo'jam Kabeer, Hadith No. 16880; Kanz Ul Ummal, Hadith No. 13065)

And this is what the Quran says about dating.

[The Noble Qur'an - Al-Ma'idah 5:5]

...not committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as secret lovers (girlfrnd or boyfriend)  ...

I know how overwhelming our feels and desires sometimes become. Its hard, very hard, to take control, especially when you like the person back, it becomes so much more hard to say "no".

For some, having a boyfriend or a girlfriend is a cool thing, while others just dont want to feel alone and empty, and then their are those, who just love the attention.

And some who enter into a relationship, because they just cant get him/her out of their heads, and what to see where fate leads them.

But whatever it may be, ALWAYS REMEMBER... When Allah ta'ala tells us to NOT do something and we do it anyway, we are putting our OWN desires above Allah. Whatever is forbidden in Islam is for our own good.

Love stories in the movies are written by scriptwriters. Yours is written by Allah. So put your trust in Him and know that He has nothing but the best in store for you.

A relationship before marraige is made unlawful because of the consequences it may cause after marriage, even if it is with the one you had the affair with.

And why should one even be in a relationship, when he/she doesnt even intend or plan to get married? And if you planned on marrying him/her since the first time you saw him/her or the first time you felt something more, for him/her, Why not approach in the halaal way, by asking for his/her hand in marraige? Why to ruin your aakhira, your hereafter, when, end of the day, you were marrying and spending time with, loving and making love to, with the same person?

If that marriage comes about as a result of an illicit love relationship, such as when they meet and are alone together and kiss one another, and other haraam actions, then it will NEVER be stable, because they committed actions that go against sharee'ah (Islamic Law) and because they have built their lives on things that will have the effect of reducing blessings and support from Allah, for sin is a major factor in reducing blessings, even though some people think, because of the Satans whispers, that falling in love and doing haraam deeds before marraige makes the marriage stronger.