"I DO" BUT I CAN'T - (31 Day Challenge)

DAY EIGHTEEN

'DADA' - 'MAMA'

Everyday you will add a new principle from the previous day.

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

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Imagine the first time your son or daughter says 'dada' or 'mama' while you're holding them. Isn't it a blessing to see another human being who looks like you, who will live under your roof and you have NO IDEA what their purpose or mission is? Isn't it amazing how they can become anyone in the future, they can change the world, separate the red sea or ask God to throw fire from heaven, maybe even have God make the day longer like Joshua!

These events took place, he or she is capable of even greater things. So as a Christian we MUST stand against abortion because the devil is doing everything he can to destroy those who have a calling and a destiny to change the world.

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I love children. They are amazing, beautiful and innocent.

I would love to be a parent one day, however, God must prepare us for whatever responsibility we will deal with.

Must of us have been praying for a spouse without doing anything to be 'the spouse' too. Don't forget, God can't give unless you can handle it. Why would He allow you to go through childbirth or watch you wife at childbirth, just to raise the child to then watch him smoke, drink, party, swear, disrespect you and carelessly throw away every memory that you've ever implanted in them?

Just as it's a sin to break apart those that God brings together, it's equally wrong to put together who God doesn't approve as qualified to be in this temporary product called 'marriage'.

So, to force your way to having children when you're not prepared is just as much of a sin. You're bringing a child when you can't look after your home, you can't care after other people's children, you can't babysit, you can't wake up early, you're impatient and grumpy all the time.

Marriage doesn't fix your problems, it exposes them. Babies don't make you better people, they reveal you weakness. If you are depressed, the baby doesn't remove depression, the baby will become part of that and they will have to cry all night while you play videos in your head to how you want to kill yourself.

This is very serious. A baby is a blessing but you must develop skills now as a woman or a man to better you as a future mother or father in the future.

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Bible Verses

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4)

Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity... (Titus 2:7)

Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. (Proverbs 13:24)

Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. (Colossians 3:21)

And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. (Deuteronomy 6:6-7)

Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart. (Proverbs 29:17)

Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. (Proverbs 23:13)

But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. (1 Timothy 5:8)

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Discipline.
Provide.
Teach.

DISCIPLINE
If you are not ready to discipline your children, no, not like this modern world of 'go to the naughty corner' but real discipline; you'll find yourself in big trouble. Children these days have no respect for their elders, no respect for God and because they get away with everything, they will see God as this being who does not straighten us, does not care and does not discipline.

PROVIDE
You must be able to provide. As a mother you need to learn to cook, clean, feed, babysit, love children, take care of babies, do the laundry, teach, and wake up early. (Proverbs 31 will help so meditate on that)

Providing is key for men. As a father you must be prepared to provide financially, provide with your wisdom and knowledge. You must be able to forgive easily but not to let them go so quickly. You must be feared but also adored because you want their trust, especially in rough times. However, you want their respect too, so they can understand that they must honor their parents and others that they encounter. Provide your time and effort because you only get to see them grow up once.

TEACHING
While parenting, you must be able to teach also. Teaching the word of God especially because that's the foundation that will allow them to live life. They will know the truth, grow with the truth and they will not be knocked down by any new doctrine or lie from hell.

This will not be easy, ask around. But, if you know the greatest parent of all, you can't go wrong.

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(Prayer)

Pray and ask God to help you develop skills which you struggle with and desperately need. We all struggle with something, so pray and ask God to help you day by day.

Today - think of everything that the Bible says that you need.
Go back to the previous chapters or your notes to see how Adam and Eve were. Their attributes and skills were given to them for manhood or womanhood and parenting.

Go work on them from today onwards. If you need to make a list or a timetable of daily routines and tasks then do so. Spend today planning your days, organising your self in any way possible.

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Hygiene - Work on cleaning your personal space, your body etc. Get used to being clean because it doesn't change in the future. Make showering, dressing up, doing your bed, washing up, planning, working hard, waking up early and every other quality that you lack - a habit. DO NOT SETTLE.

Your blessings are on their way, they need you to be prepared, clean and matured, no more of your childish ways. Take responsibility for everything around you including yourself and... ENJOY yourself. Have fun because once it becomes a habit, you will become the greatest blessing that your spouse could ever recieve.

Cleaning your now;
Will satisfy their after!