"I DO" BUT I CAN'T - (31 Day Challenge)

DAY THIRTY

(M. E. P. S) - IN SEX

Everyday you will add a new principle from the previous chapter.

'Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous'
- Hebrews 13:4

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Part 1 - SEX

Why should you wait to have Sex?

Mental. Emotional. Physical. Spiritual.

Waiting develops and strengthens all them areas of your relationship if you keep your fire under control. How? Well it goes in chronological order beginning with your mental state, to leading the both of you through an emotional state and eventually to a physical state of development. Then finally, the spiritual side, where you grow spiritually in light of your patience.

Mentally - You're focusing on each other's dreams, this will allow you to focus on pushing each other to strive to becoming the best version of yourselves. When you are waiting, you're focused mentally because your mind isn't on the prize that you can get sexually but you learn to live with each other. Can you communicate? Can you motivate each other? Are they positive? Thoughtful? Strong minded? Willful and focused? These are the questions that you will need to answer when you are waiting on God because your mind will be focused on them and this is where it starts before the other areas of your life begins to strengthen.

Emotionally. Well, maybe you still think you can have sex and still grow mentally but what about emotionally? Emotions are hidden when sex is involved because couples replace 'talk' with sex. This is why problems are never really solved and people remain in relationships for the physical satisfaction but they're dying emotionally. This is where you share your past, your hidden secrets, your struggles, your past relationships, your fears and you LEARN to deal with them regardless of who they were. You will actually understand their view of the world and the horror that they've had to experience. You will be naked emotionally before each other and imagine that connection when you are married? No secrets, no being afraid to speak up or share a past that you constantly deal with because of your constant sharing and building during your courtship and focus in your present relationship.

Physically. This has to be the last thing you think about during your courtship because this is where the devil operates the most. People ask me, 'How far should I go without actually sinning?' or 'Is making out enough' or 'Am I allowed to touch her below her waist?' and my personal favourite, 'Am I allowed to look at him/her in lust because he/she is going to be my spouse anyway, right?'
All I'm going to say is be very careful, the point of protecting the fire, is not to ask 'how close can I get to it without getting burnt?' The real question is, 'How far can I stay away so that I'm as protected and free from any damage that the fire can cause?' So the touching, the kissing, the hugging, the late night talks, the thoughts and the inappropriate glances will all depend on you and the person you're hoping to spend your life with. Ask yourself: How far can I stay away from being tempted? The decision is yours, you must set boundaries as high as God will lead you to set them because the devil wants you to fight temptation but God wants you to FLEE.

Spiritually. At this point, you would have already made satan your puppet. He would have tempted you or gave you sick and twisted ideas but because of the boundaries, the connection and the respect you have for one another; the devil would have been worn out. Your relationship would only have gotten much more powerful in prayer and fasting. The devil will find other areas to try and destroy but your relationship will be in God's hand and it will be blessed as you patiently honored God through seeking the spiritual gifts, the spiritual lifestyle and you gave God your purity too in this satanic, domestic and corrupted world. God will truly reward you in the open. In marriage, sex will be honored greatly and you will enjoy it the most because you would have emptied yourselves mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. So that intimacy will not just be physical, but a life changing experience with the only person you can truly trust with everything that you are. What more could you possibly want?

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SCIENTIFIC FACT

Professor Dean Busby of Brigham Young University had studied 2,035 married people ranging in age from 19 to 71, married from less than six months to more than 20 years. Dr. Busby claimed that not only did the couples who waited until after marriage to have sex rate their sex life better, they reported that their marriages were more stable and satisfying, and their communication was better than couples who had not waited.

1 out of the 10,000+ studies out there. There are no study that disagrees with this fact. (Do individual research)
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