"I DO" BUT I CAN'T - (31 Day Challenge)

DAY THIRTY-ONE

(M. E. P. S) - DURING A RELATIONSHIP

This chapter is very important. It will take more than a few minutes to read so make sure you are comfortable and prepared to take as many information as you can. I will include a bonus chapter but read through this chapter to find out why. Thank you and God bless you in abundance.

'But stay awake at all times, praying that you may have strength to escape all these things that are going to take place, and to stand before the Son of Man.'
- Luke 21:36

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Part 2 - MARRIAGE

Do not be deceived by all the distractions and the false smiles that you may get from these godly 'men' or 'women'. A smile can be charming but deceptive too so make your choice wisely and if you ever find yourself in a relationship, make sure you come back to these questions. They are very important. There is no specific order to how you build your relationship. Look at each category and be aware of their mentality, their emotional side, their physical desires and their spirituality or belief. See it as one big picture.

I would advise you to TakeSomeNotes.

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Mental -
The Rush & Excitement Episode

1.) Are you both mentally capable of dealing with each other? Men are called to lead so if the woman is not teachable then there will always be conflict. Vice versa, if the man is not mature enough to make wise decisions then you cannot simply be together, never mind living or building a family together.

2.) What do they want out of life? Do they aim high? Some people just want a 3 bedroom apartment, a simple job, a few soap operas in the evening, takeaways during the weekend and a few arguments now and then. Do they motivate you to strive for more, to strive to fulfil your life's purpose and mission? Our God is great and He desires for us a much greater and satisfying lifestyle that don't just bring Him pleasure but it also brings us maximum joy and fulfilment in this life.

3.) Are you ashamed of them? When you look at them, can you feel comfortable or in a humbling manner, proud? Proud to reveal them to your friends, colleagues, church members and family even. If you're constantly doubting mentally if they're worth your time and energy during your relationship then stop leading them on and take time off to be consulted from your heavenly Father.

4.) Are they mature? Have they left childish jokes, languages, actions or habits behind? Do you have to drag them to church, persuade them to read the bible, remind them to wake up for the morning prayer during a fasting season? If so, stop babysitting them and start asking God to help them in their singleness.

5.) Can they handle responbility now? If not now then, as a man, how will you handle parenting, marriage, ministry, occupation and provision for the family? If not now then, as a woman, how will you handle motherhood, marriage, home care, long hours of provision and maintaining order and peace in your home? Now imagine all that while being a Christian? Constantly under spiritual warfare and sadly, these roles these responsibilities can become failures and suicidal thoughts for you to escape misery. It's very important that you ask God for a childlike mentality and a humbling heart. It's all to do with the renewing of your mind.