Shut down your imagination.
Shy people sometimes feel disapproval or rejection even when it isn't there. People probably like you much more than you give credit for.
Know your strengths.
Make a list of all your positive qualities—enlist a friend or family member to help if you need to, and read or recite it when you're feeling insecure. Let it remind you how much your have to offer.
Watch Carefully.
Most of us are harder on ourselves, so make a habit of observing others (without making a big deal out of it). You may find that people are suffering from their symptoms of insecurity and you are not alone.
Name It.
Make a list of all your jitters and worries. Name them, plan how you're going to eliminate them, and then move forward.
Don't Tell.
There's no need to advertise your shyness. Those who are close to you already know, and others may not have an opportunity to notice. It's not as visible as you probably think.
Choose Relationships Carefully.
Shy people tend to have fewer but deeper friendships—which means your choice of friend or partner is even more important. Give your time to the people in your life who are responsive, warm, and encouraging.
Remember That One Bad Moment Doesn't Determine A Bad Day.
Especially if you spend a lot of time in your own head, as shy people tend to do, it's easy to distort experiences, to think our shyness ruined an entire event, when chances are it wasn't a big deal to anyone but you.
Stop Self-sabotaging.
Sometimes we really are our own worst enemy. Don't allow your inner critic to put you down. Instead, analyze the power of that voice so you can diffuse it.
i'm not saying shy is a bad thing!!
