A Girl's Guide Book

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[how to ask a guy out!]

Gotta crush on a guy but too scared to take action? Or you know he likes you and you like him back but he's just too nervous to ask so why not take the lead!! With this guide i'll make sure to help you with just that!

1. What's the worse thing that can happen? The worse thing that can happen would be that he will respectfully say "No" if he is a decent person. Keep this in mind and then prepare yourself to ask him out. Remember this will help you endure the pain in case this happens.

2. Find the right place and time to ask him out. Make sure you have an opportunity to walk into him in a casual, low-pressure setting. It might be in the hallway, at the water fountain, on a sports field after practice, or wherever else you usually see him. Pick an isolated place, as well as a time when he's likely to be relaxed and not stressed out! If he likes the library, go ahead at that!! Talk about some books then slowly ask him out

3. Have a date in mind. If it's your first time asking this guy out, you'll be a lot more confident if you invite him to a specific activity. It spares you the stress of coming up with something to do while you're on the actual date, and won't leave you saying "Uhhh... I don't know" when he asks what the plan is. Practise what you might say too, this will help if you're a completely nervous person and might mess up :)

4. Have an exit strategy. Though you should focus on the best case scenario (a resounding yes!) instead of the worst, you do need to be aware that there's a teeny-tiny chance that the guy won't say yes. Maybe he likes someone else, or maybe he was startled and only thought of you as a friend -- either way, you'll get through it. But if you want to make the most of the situation and not lose your cool, you should come up with a Plan B in case things don't go as plan!

5. Exude confidence. This might be the most intimidating step for some people, but it's important. Having confidence when you ask him out will frame both you and the date in an attractive, appealing way, and will make the guy more inclined to trust you and to say yes!

6. Flirt with him. Send small signals that you're interested so that he's not completely surprised when you ask him out. It could be as simple as making eye contact and smiling, or a prolonged flirt session over text. Be careful with making eye contact. If he avoids your eyes, try again after a few minutes. Do not try to hold eye contact longer than 30 seconds at a time, or else it will seem awkward. (just don't flirt like a slut hard core lmao!! it will make you look so desperate that he might turn into ash and fade, literally!)

7. Just ask! After a minute or two, you'll need to build the courage to pop the question, if not sooner. Think of it like ripping off a band-aid: it's better if you just get it over with. Stay as calm and casual as you can, and ask him out in a simple sentence!

8. Accept the answer with grace. Try to be mentally prepared for his answer to go either way. If he's interested, great! If not, resolve that it won't ruin your day and you'll move on. Here's what you should do in either situation:
If he says no: Take it with a smile. Say something like, "No worries, let me know if you change your mind. See you around," and walk away calmly. Rejection hurts, but try not to harbor resentment or anger toward him. He may be cursing himself a few hours later but it's how you respond that will determine whether or not he plucks up the courage to make it up to you!
9. Enjoy the fact that you just asked a guy out!! Whether he said yes or no, boys will be boys and they suck ass just like hot 5sOS sorry!! Be proud of yourself that you did it and just achieved at life man!

10. If he said no and you end up staring at the posters in your room alone at midnight, get. the. fuck. up. and. go. to. a. club. girl!

Hope I helped!! :)
Tysm for 700+ reads like wHAT BITCHES WHAT but im so sorry for being inactive!! I've been on vacation and i wanted to say something....mERRY LATE CHRISTMAS YOU GUYS I HOPE YOU HAD A GREAT ONE BECAUSE YOU TOTALLY DESERVED

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