My sister said possibly one of the most hurtful things she could ever say to me.
She said to me that all trans youth shouldn't be allowed to medically transition until they're 18. She said it was because kids don't know their gender and it could hurt them, so it was to "help" them make the right decision. By the way, this discussion got started because I told her there's anti-trans bills that are trying to get passed in states like Texas.
{I had screenshots here to prove what she said, but she told me to take down the screenshots. As angry as I am, I still respect people's privacy and believe they have a right to that, so I deleted the 4 screenshots of her messages.}
I couldn't believe that statement came from my own sister...
And this is what I replied with.
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I know, it's pretty harshly worded... but even after my literal tears have dried, I don't regret how I said it.
It's one thing for some random idiot on the internet to go running their mouth with this kind of bullshit, but it's another thing when it's my own sister. She was by my side ever since day 1 when I started transitioning. She supported me the entire way through and when I eventually reached the point of suicide because I couldn't medically transition and I couldn't handle the dysphoria, she was the only one that stopped me. She was the only person in the world who even seemed to care about what I was going through...
And then she turns around and has the audacity to say that trans kids shouldn't medically transition.
I tried to logically debate with her {I brought up the 0.5% medical transition regret rate, mentioned the fact cis people don't ever have to be questioned on their gender but trans people do, everything I could think of}... but as time went on, I couldn't keep it together anymore. That's what my response pretty obviously illustrates, though I still think even that emotional response shows just how damaging it is to make trans kids wait until they're adults to medically transition.
Maybe I'm still in denial about my own sister saying shit this fucked up... I don't know. What I do know is the betrayal fucking hurts and I can't believe she actually did this to me. She genuinely told me that I should be legally required to wait until I'm 18 to medically transition even after all the problems it's caused for me.
I hope she's willing to have my blood on her hands if I do end up killing myself, then... along with the blood of other trans youth who will follow similar paths. That's all a law like that would cause: pain and suffering. It helps nobody.
...
After all that arguing, I couldn't take it anymore. I blocked her on Discord because she wouldn't shut up no matter how much I told her it hurt me to hear her say those things. She just kept telling me I'll understand one day and that she has a different perspective because she's an adult and I'm not.
No, I'll never understand. All I see is betrayal from the person I was closest to.
