thoughts of me and you

62. things i've learned being in a relationship

okay
gather 'round children
it's time for learning with mother (a mother with little experience but willing to give as much as advice as possible bc i love all my children)
also just fyi
most of this is being based off of me and my relationship so girlxguy
but that don't mean it can't be applied to other types of relationships (i will be using 'him' a lot tho bc my boyfriend is in fact, a 'him')

anyways-

i started datinggggggggg
february 4, 2024
it is now march 22, 2024
so just a little over a month

so
like
first of all
date smo older-
they're more mature-
imma do some exposing of myself here
ahem
i'm 17, and the boys my age/grade/year are super ICKY
my boyfriend is 9 months older than me and is not icky (YAYAYYAYAYAY)
do yourself a favour girl, date smo older <3
or wait until you're past the teen years-

(ALSO GUYS DONT JUDGE ME FOR ANYTHING THIS IS MYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY RELATIONSHIP. you may not agree but if you come after me for simply disagreeing, you can go ahead and kiss my ass <3. but this is my first relationship-)

anywaysssssssssss
here are some things i've learned:
- if he's tall, make him bend/lean down, the neck pain ain't worth it
(THAT WAS A JOKE GUYS. I LOVE LOOKING UP AT MY BOYFRIEND)
i'm a 5'4" (162 cm) girly, he's a whole foot taller than me as a 6'4" (193) human boy

- he can (if you are comfortable with it) look at your ass and boobs- (laughing break bc i hate that word bc it sounds so child-like... ahem-) NO MATTER HOW FLAT OR FAT THEY ARE. (they are perfect, no matter the size. everything about you is perfect. YES YOU. IM TALKING TO YOU.) just bc he looks at them doesn't mean it's the ONLY thing he desires. i know a masterpiece like you wouldn't let some next-to-nothing piece of shit waste your time. so if he's here, he desires all of you, inside and out. heart and mind. good and bad. ALL OF YOU. the point is, looking at the carefully designed pillows you have doesn't make him bad, he's admiring you and what YOUR OWN MOTHER created (so be kind to you and your mother.)

- sayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy say say say SAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYy "N O" AND DONT FEEL BAD FOR SAYING THAT AND SETTING BOUNDRIES
idk why
but 
i say sorry many times whenever my boyfriend asks smth and i say no
i automatically think that he hates me after i say no, but he doesn't. he asks before doing SO THAT i have the chance to say no BECAUSE YOUR BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND/WHATEVER THE FUCK SHOULD PUT YOUR COMFORT AND SAFETY BEFORE PLEASURE
you. can. say. no. to. a. kiss. even a hand holding.
this might be tmi BUT whatever
i'm being vulnerable with yall for a reason
anyways
my boyfriend asks to kiss my thighs almost all the time
SO MANY TIMES i say no AND HE RESPECTS THAT. i'm not comfortable with it (especially now since i have scars BUT THAT ISNT THE POINT) i was always insecure abt my thighs cuz they fat as FUCK
anyways
S A Y   N O

- literally- i cannot- WHEN IT COMES TO PAYING (i have a debit so it's a bit easier with card rather than cash) BUT FIGHT HIM WHEN MONEY COMES INTO PLAY
i literally try to pay all the time
he never lets me
but that little effort you put forth actually shows how much you actually like them. you like spending the time with them. you like putting in effort for them. (you might not always end up paying-)
my boyfriend bought me a fucking large stuffed duck bc i thought it was cute (it was expensive-)
he buys drinks and gum and whenever i go with him, i always try paying. though the total is never much I WANNA PAY. LET ME PAY BOY.
try to pay
idk how it works with cash
but debit? easy. PUT IN THAT EFFORT

- little random gifts :)
i buy my boyfriend stuffed animals :)
BUY. FLOWERS. if you buy him flowers, that might probably be the first bouquet of flowers that man ever received in his life. BUY THE FUCKING FLOWERS. red roses if you're feeling bold-
but even just getting him his fav snack or drink is just a sweet, simple gesture that is just HEARTWARMING