What's wrong with the diet? What is the role of self-love?

Chapter 13. How to Love Yourself? Beliefs and Moral Judgments

What we study: How do patterns of beliefs and moral judgments influence a person?

What's new: Which beliefs and moral judgments lead to self-love and which do not?

What we will learn: How does the behavior of Jesus Christ demonstrate the value of Biblical beliefs and judgments?

1. The superego, which judges the rightness or wrongness of actions. In general, the superego is an internalized representation [representation of a pattern, ed., author] of the values ​​and morals of society; it includes the individual's conscience, as well as his ideas about the morally ideal person (called the ego ideal) (Atkinson R.L., et al. 2003) [1].

2. Representation of the pattern of values ​​and morals of society. Whether I will love myself depends very much on a person's beliefs. This is not only about believing in God or rejecting the belief in the existence of any god or pantheon of gods. We are talking about one's own beliefs, regardless of whether a person believes in God or not. One's own beliefs include what is valuable to that person. Belief in God may or may not be one of these values. Although a person may think that these are the values ​​and morals that he adheres to when evaluating his behavior, this is often not the case. As you can see from the above epigraph, it points out the main role of society in presenting a model of values ​​and morals in a person's conscience, which can then become his ideal. What model of values ​​and morals does society unconsciously program in a human?

3. Unconscious programming of the pattern. Values ​​and morals are instilled by family, national culture, and religion. In one family, the values ​​of love, kindness, friendliness, humanities, art, development of a sense of beauty (aesthetics) together with hard work can be instilled. Other families tend to instill the importance of social status, prestigious education, professional or political career, and material wealth. Some emphasize self-improvement in everything a person does. Some people try to instill in their children those values ​​that they themselves were unable to satisfy or not to the extent that they wanted to achieve. For example, to become an actor, a model, an outstanding athlete, or a famous TV presenter. The national culture of society can either strengthen the introduction of values ​​instilled in the family or introduce its own values. For example: the beauty industry imposes its values ​​on facial and body beauty, the fashion industry imposes values ​​on clothing images, makeup imposes values ​​on facial images, bodybuilding imposes values ​​on body image, and healthy lifestyle imposes values ​​in nutrition ("diet") and physical activity. The above or other values ​​can serve as motives of varying strength for a person's unconscious program. How should we relate to the model of social values ​​and morals for self-love?

4. Our attitude to the model of self-love. Programming of the model of social values ​​and morals can be accepted as good (correct). Or they can be condemned as actions that are contrary to a human's values, and therefore bad (incorrect). Therefore, a human who wants to change the programming of the model of values ​​about body beauty, clothing images, face, body, nutrition, and physical activity can do so only when he reprograms these values ​​to others *. To love yourself, it is necessary to program those values ​​that correspond to the individual needs of the soul and body (I fr. 24. 4-7). A human's love for himself will manifest itself if a human's values ​​do not contradict the individual essence of a person (IV fr. 28. 10). The strongest contradictions of the individual essence of a human about the model of values ​​and morals arise due to the influence of religion.

* My third book "What's Wrong with Diet? What is the Role of Esthetics?" is dedicated to reprogramming values ​​associated with external and internal beauty. Values ​​associated with the body, nutrition, and physical activity are set out in my fourth book "What's Wrong with Diet? What is the Role of Dietetics?"