There are many studies that show girls bully differently than boys, a vast majority of this type of bullying is mental and verbal, in turn this makes it harder to spot. Many blow it off as girls simply "being girls" or one of these is just "catty." That isn't always true, I posted this on my Instagram and I'm going to post it here as well to help others spot what seems like normal passive aggressive behavior... but in actuality is a form of bullying that is most common amongst teen girls. This is only part of my story. It took me ten years to realize this was unacceptable behavior, don't let it take ten years for you.
::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::This so called friend used to get annoyed with what I ate for lunch at school. Especially if she was going vegan that day/week/month. She told me I was inconsiderate and missing the big picture when I refused to alter my diet cuz my beef stew offended her and she thought she was saving water and a whole cow by not eating meat. She used to tell me I wore my shirts to low or that I dressed like a slut some days.
She would take my chair at the lunch table and if I asked for it back she'd just look annoyed and then get pissed off if I took a chair from the other girls, it was always annoying because she'd make me look like a villain when she would give MY chair to Friend 1 or Friend 2. Never mind that I had gotten to lunch before her, grabbed a chair, put my lunchbox on the fucking chair, and she would still somehow magically show up in it. One her favorite things to do would be to involve her boyfriend, who was already biased because he didn't actually know me. He would take my lunch box if I left to go heat up food or go to the bathroom, and he would hide. Their favorite spot to put it? All the way inside the trash cans or preferably somewhere I couldn't reach because I am short.
Mostly just in the trash... and we had those stupid box trashes with the little hole on top to put trash in. More than once I got gross shit on my clothes from taking my bag outta the garbage. They would laugh and her boyfriend and his best friend would tell me that it was fitting and where I belonged. I regret setting those two up together, they spent the last two years making my high school experience a special kind of hell. Regardless of the fact that this girl had done that just fine on her own for many, many years.
If she was feeling especially bitchy, she would single me out of the group. Friend 1 and Friend 2 would be allowed on her bed, but I would have to sit on the floor. They could both pet the cats but if I pet one, she'd immediately snap at me and she would take them away. Some days she would even get the other two to gang up on me, telling me just I how rude I was or how stupid I was being. One her favorite terms was that I was selfish, she used to constantly tell me that whenever I decided I didn't want to do this or that or if I didn't wanna go somewhere with her cuz she fucked up and couldn't handle shit on her own. She also really liked to lock me out of her room at times with the other two giggling inside. Or her car, especially if the other two were already in it.
She used to get annoyed if I talked too much or talked too little. Everything that came out of my mouth was either "rude" or "stupid" so when I stopped joining the group in conversations and started hanging out on my phone to avoid subjugation, she would get pissed that I was on my phone and try to take it. She got especially irritated if I couldn't hangout with the group and would always accuse me of making up excuses even if I really truly wasn't feeling well.
Her pet name for me was "Hoe" and even though I told her I didn't like it on many occasions, she would just tell me I was taking it out of context and that it didn't mean anything. I've known her for ten years. Everything she says has a hidden meaning behind it. She used to tell me I was an idiot and mocked my intelligence telling me that I was no smarter than Karen from Mean Girls or that if Joey and Phoebe from Friends had a child, I would be that child.
At some point, I asked Friend 1 and Friend 2 for help with this girl, the exact response I got was "oh we don't want to get involved and start drama, that's just too stressful." And sitting there watching her harass me wasn't stressful enough for you??? Eventually I got tired of her bullshit and started distancing myself from her and calling her out on her bullshit, she didn't like that her little punching bag started ignoring her.
One of her favorite things to do would be to twist what I would say and to make me feel guilty about something that I asked her to cut out, like it was my fault that I was pissed off she called me an idiot so many times. She hated when I would flirt with guy, would always say I got all annoying and weird and "I was pushing my boobs out too far."
This shit started in middle school, and got progressively worse throughout high school. Even my boyfriend at the time noticed she treated me like shit. He would tell me everyday that I shouldn't take that shit and I would makeup excuses for her like "oh that's just how she is, she's always been like that." I still remember the "Are you fucking kidding me???" Expression he had on his face the first time I said that...
The worst part of this story is because I had known her for so long and idolized her for her smarts, her beauty, and her quick wit, I blocked out the fact that even though she disguised herself as my friend, she is really one of the main reasons I struggle to really open up to people and socialize without the fear of being verbally and mentally abused again.
I am well aware that I am not a perfect friend either. But that doesn't make it okay for anyone to treat someone like this. I used to cry myself to sleep because I felt worthless, her words would torment me at night and I would always wonder what was wrong with me. Turns out, there wasn't anything majorly flawed about me at all. Just everything wrong with her. She took out her own insecurities on me. Don't let people walk over you. You are better than that.
I love all you guys and you deserve the best in life! Fuck people who say otherwise!

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