Quotes that are either inspirational or funny, but are amazing for when your day is down.
Questions that you should ask yourself everyday when you wake up.
A mix of both for when you need them. And an explanation as to why I chose them and what the...
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Am I giving the people I value most enough time?
Am I giving the people I value most enough time? That's a difficult question. What is enough time? Who do I give it to? What if I can't?
Let's start with 'What is enough time?' What is enough time to give to someone? Would what I consider enough time be different for someone else?
I think the second question is true, 'would what I consider enough time be different for someone else?' I also think it would be different depending on how your feeling.
On the average day, I'm fine with spending most of the day by myself or cuddling with my dog. But that's not true for all days. On days any of us don't feel well, or if my mom isn't working, or if we're just all hyper, we spend most, or at least half, of the day together.
That's different amounts of time given to each other, but I'm still content. I'm not social, not like my parents. I don't need many people in my life. I'd welcome new friends, but I don't need them.
That's not 100% true for my parents. They need people to interact with. They go out dancing every Tuesday if they get the chance. Our neighbors stop by every now and then. My mom drives around town because she can. They need many people in their lives. They need more time given to them than I do.
So here's the answer, everyone needs a different amount of time.
So, 'Who do I give it to?' That's actually much more difficult then it sounds.
In response to that question, I'd ask one of my own, who do I value most? That's easy to answer, I value my parents above anything.
So I should make sure I give enough time to them also, right? Not always. I also value myself and my life, maybe not equal to my parents, but close. And if I value myself and my parents most, then I should give my parents and I equal time, right? No.
While I don't get much time from my parents, that's enough for me. But for them, that isn't enough. So if I give my parents all the time they needed, then that would be to much time for me.
So I find a balance, I spend time with my dad, time with my mom, time with both, time by myself while still helping them somehow, and I let them spend time together. Maybe I use a bit more energy then I prefer, or maybe my parents don't get all the time they want, but it works, we're content, happy. We all get enough time, but not to much.
'What if I can't?' If you value someone enough, there wouldn't be a 'I can't' there would be a 'I'll find a way'. So if you feel like you can't spend enough someone needs, try doing something for them instead of with them. Clean the house, do the dishes, make dinner, bring snacks, help with a project, walk the dogs, feed the pets, etc. That is still giving people time, even if you don't spend it with them.
So there's the answer to those questions. If you have more feel free to ask!
