peace of mind

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Do you ever find yourself questioning things about your life? Things about YOU that you have become unsure about? Kinda like you feel almost as if you don't even truly know yourself all that well?

     That could range anywhere from questioning yourself within your sexuality to not being sure of your religious beliefs. Sometimes you feel like you may be having some sort of spiritual awakening in a sense. Whereas the older you get, the more you begin to discover things about yourself and your life. You start to develop your OWN beliefs and opinions instead of just falling back onto the beliefs and opinions of others that have practically been bombarded into your brain ever since you can remember.

Now don't get me wrong, it is more than okay to stick to what you've always known. But it is also more than okay to venture outside the box more and EXPAND those opinions and beliefs of yours.

     As far as discovering more about yourself within your sexuality, just know that it is perfectly fine to be whoever you want to be. Everyone has valid feelings. Your sexuality does NOT and WILL NOT ever define who you are as a person. As long as you treat other people well and are a genuine person, that should be all that matters. I have many friends that are a part of the LGBTQ+ community. I have supported them from day one. 

Do whatever it may be that your precious heart desires. Be whoever you want to be. You don't even have to label yourself as anything. You can simply just say "I'm ME and if that isn't good enough for you, then I don't need you in my life." 

     Being more open minded has definitely helped me personally to open my eyes to so many things. I can for sure say that I don't have all of the same opinions and beliefs as my family. I'm very strong-willed and when I believe in something, I stand my ground on it and refuse to let anyone change that. There are multiple topics to which my family and I may disagree on, rather it be the topic of the LGBTQ+ community, black lives matter, politics, etc. I have a very different perspective on things than they do. They don't like the way I see things nor the things I support.

     Regardless of that, don't ever let anyone make you think or feel like you have to change for them to like you or to love you. You shouldn't ever have to change yourself to make other people happy. Accepting things is very difficult for some people, I'm well aware of that, but if others can't accept you for who you are and respect the fact that you have your own beliefs and opinions, you don't need them. None of us need that kind of negativity in our lives. 

     I also would just like to throw this out there; IT IS GOOD TO EDUCATE PEOPLE ON THINGS, however, don't try to force your beliefs onto them. If you're trying to educate someone on something, doing so in a more calm and respectful manner, is more likely to go farther. BUT I say that to say this: there is absolutely nothing wrong with defending yourself and standing up for the beliefs that you have. 

     Don't let anyone ever disrespect you just because you are who you are and they think that it's okay to treat you however they want. NO. From experience, I can tell you that if you allow someone to disrespect you ONCE, people will think that it's okay to disrespect you from that point on and will do so without even so much of a passing thought that you might defend yourself. They will think that they can just run all over you. Don't allow it.