Since I started in showbiz, I've encountered a lot of hate and judgments from people I don't even know. I was hurt of course, but I respect their own opinions. But that didn't stop me from crying every f-cking time. My mom taught me how to handle these kind of situations. She told me not to answer back and respect them. Of course as a kid, I obeyed her. I didn't understand a lot about those things yet. All I know is that it hurts to hear some people saying that I'm not good enough. But as I grew older, as I learn and know more, I understood and realized more about my surroundings. I realized that, how can I respect those people if they don't even respect me? Should I just let them belittle and downgrade me?
Given that not all people will appreciate you, but do they need to say it to your face? For me, it's rude and insensitive. What would they feel if they were in my situation? I'm sure they would probably be pissed off and fought back. Some celebrities are like that. I can see how they would reply back to some haters on their social media accounts. In all honesty, I praise them for their courage to defend themselves because I can't even do that for myself. But I guess, everyone has their own way of coping from the situation. Some would just cry and give up, some would fight back, and some would keep mum and choose not to care. And I chose to do the last one.
I made a mental note to myself the phrases I always want to remember. "Kill them with kindness" and "Silent kill". I learned that whatever you say or do, people who are close-minded will never listen and understand. So why bother explaining? You don't owe any explanation to anyone. You are not living in this world to please anyone. You are here for a purpose. There's more to that. Your actions define who you are. And when you choose to argue with those people, it just means that you are willing to stoop down at their level. Educated people know how to handle hates and misjudgments the way it should be handled. Just keep silent and they will get tired of criticizing you eventually.
For the past 12 years of my existence in this acting industry, this is the first and the most heartbreaking hate I've ever had. It hurts more to see and hear from a friend that she despises you.
Zharm has been my friend since elementary. I don't know what's the real story between her and DJ but all I know is that, they were in a relationship even before Growing Up started. She would often open up about DJ and talk about how they met and where they usually date. And as a close friend, I would normally and happily chat with her. I would also playfully ask her if she wants me to look after DJ if girls are getting near him.
But everything between us changed after they broke up. I don't know what's the real reason and I'm itching to know but she has never talked to me after that. So I didn't meddle anymore.
Then this gossip blew up. I just read tweets from her like: "You said you'll look after him, but would you look at that? You're even the one who flirted with him." And she would also indirectly answer back a rude reply to my tweets. A lot of my fans are following her and some of them already took a hint that her mean and rude tweets were for me. The fans kept asking her if it she was portraying to me. And it didn't take long before she admitted it. And she earned a lot of bashers after that.
I was so d-mn hurt. I don't even know what I did to deserve her hate. I have no idea on why she's blaming me for their break-up. I cried and cried until I got tired that night.
When the news was heard by DJ, he immediately sincerely apologized for Zharm's actions and promised to do everything he can to stop her from what she's doing. He also explained to me what really happened between the two of them. That he broke up with her because he was falling for me. It was too much for me to took in. My mind's a haywire. Daniel just kind-of confessed his feelings for me but my mind's only thinking on how I would talk and make up with Zharm.
As promised, he fixed everything about the two of them. He even announced it on his social media account that he already fixed it and he rather be the one hurt than me. I was relieved. He even said his apologies to my family for bringing me up to their own misunderstanding.
