HELP IS ALWAYS SOMETHING YOU GIVE.
It is never to be exerted with a notion of give-and-take, that is only a possible outcome.
If it is exerted with a belief of gaining, with a desire for taking, it's a transaction, an investment, but it is never help. Because help is always something you give , and nothing you're expected to retrieve.
If it is indeed done with force, with the notion of taking, it is not help anymore. Because help is something you give. Out of own will. Not because you were forced to do it.
If it is done with a constrained heart of giving, either because you think you inevitably have to help someone or it will bug you later on, or because someone else has told you to do it, it is not help anymore. That's a constraint. Because help is something you give out of own will.
If help is done for anyone but the one you're helping, it's not help anymore. It's an exertion and sign of narcissism, or servility. Because help is something you give. Help is something you give.
And funnily, everyone can see it: The help that's forced upon, issued by anyone but one's sincerity, thrown out just to be thrown out. Help that is not help can be seen by anyone, even the one "giving". It will feel really bad for both parties. Not only the one exerting it, but the one on the receiving end as well. But why does someone have to feel bad about something so naturally engraved in everyone's soul? It will feel like a debt that's forced onto you somehow. But why does it have to feel so compelling when it's the notion of giving that defined the process of helping? You know, usually people would keep a bond, even if just for a split second. And they'd wonder if there would be something they could do in return, or even just show up when you have to be on the receiving end of it all. Naturally. Because you would have done the same. Out of own will. Not forced, never forced. But if help is forced, people only feel strange, thinking about the moment they can get away from the situation, the moment they won't need your help anymore. Because they know it is not an act of helping, just as you do too.
Because help is always exerted with the notion of giving. Because help is always something you give.
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