This is just a whole lot of rambling about things concerning my fellow aces and also aros and aroaces because I gotta dump my thoughts somewhere.
So first of all, "queerplatonic" relationships
(For those who don't know queerplatonic is "a relationship that is not romantic but involves a close emotional connection (platonic) beyond what most people consider friendship" according to google)
Firstly, what is the word "queer" doing in there????? You could argue it's meant to mean "weird platonic relationships" but let's be honest, that was probably not it.
Aside from that, I personally have kind of a hard time seeing those relationships any differently than best friends. Like they always put the "would you do [insert commitment usually associated with romantic relationships] with your friend?????"
And I'm like yes,,, yes I would. You wouldn't?
Not all of my friends of course, but my two best friends and that doesn't mean we're "queerplatonic", we're just very close friends.
And the other day I saw someone arguing in favor of QPR and they honest to god said that those relationships weren't friendships because friends are just people "you don't hate as much" and honestly I feel kinda sad for that person.
Moving on to aces, I know I've spoken about this before but holy dam it's so stupid. People really be saying that ace people can't be straight just to force them into the LGBT community, but they haven't thought about the fact that while trying to be inclusive they're invalidating the identities of ace people who happily identify as straight, not to mention gay and bi ace people because if aces can't be straight then they can't be gay either so good job, you're being completely counterproductive.
Talking about cis straight aces, I just don't see what could they ever gain from being in the LGBT community?? Like, they can't talk about being trans, they can't talk about feeling any type of same gender attraction, the only thing they can talk about is not feeling sexual attraction and most people won't be able to relate to their experiences, only other ace people will and for that isn't it just easier to have their own community??? That's just my take on it.
Also why do people get offended when someone else says that polyamorous people to put an example aren't LGBT? If a community wasn't made for you it just wasn't. You don't see people who only like fish trying to get into the reptile community even if they don't like reptiles do you?? The LGBT communist isn't a "for everyone who feels slightly out of the norm" shelter, it was meant for a specific group of people and others shouldn't get angry because some plan on keeping it that way.
I've also been thinking that, what if I'm not really ace but actually just have self-esteem issues that make the thought of having sex disgusting..?
But then again, I still don't find anyone sexually attractive in any way or form and could live the rest of my life happily without having sex. So. I don't know.
I've also been thinking that, if I ever get a girlfriend (which will probably be in like,, thirteen years) it would be better if she was ace too. Because sure it's cute in fanfics when the ace person gets together with a non-ace person (I'm sorry I just don't like the word allosexual, it's just weird to me) but realistically just because I don't want nor need sex doesn't mean my partner won't and it would be unfair to them and it probably wouldn't end up good so, I just think a relationship between two aces would be way easier.
And I think that's it? Yeah, idk. Love ya all. Sorry for all the nonsense
