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future husband ?

Asalamu alaykom all,

Alahumma salli w sallem w barek ala sayedina Muhammad, w ala alihi w sahbihi ajmaeen w baed...

I want to talk today about 'The Future Husband' as it is clear in the title !

So I am so sure most girls, oh who am I kidding... ALL GIRLS dream of there future husband.

One say I want him blond, other say I want him black, a third one say I want him with colored eyes .. I want him romantic,  I want him cute I want him and I want him... bla bla bla....

Let's start with an ayah in the quran, in surat al nur (26) that says :

الْخَبِيثَاتُ لِلْخَبِيثِينَ وَالْخَبِيثُونَ لِلْخَبِيثَاتِ ۖ وَالطَّيِّبَاتُ لِلطَّيِّبِينَ وَالطَّيِّبُونَ لِلطَّيِّبَاتِ ۚ أُولَٰئِكَ مُبَرَّءُونَ مِمَّا يَقُولُونَ ۖ لَهُمْ مَغْفِرَةٌ وَرِزْقٌ كَرِيمٌ

(English translation):

Unclean women are for unclean men, and unclean men are for unclean women; and pure women are for pure men, and pure men are for pure women. They are free from the slanderer's accusations; for them there shall be forgiveness and honorable provision from Allah.

So that means it's vise versa ! If a woman was bad then her man will be bad, and if she was good then Allah will send her a good man... and of course the same goes to the man.. if he was good he will get a good woman and if he was bad he will get a bad one...

So that means we should be good to get what we want from the good!

You know if you really have the faith in Allah and you believe that if u will do the right he will reward you with the best; you will come to a point where u won't care about how you future husband will be. U will just care about him being a truthful muslim. And by then you will be happy.

I am not saying no romantic stuff, no cute stuff... we are all humans and we all have feelings and likes and dislikes..  so you might end up having your dream husband IF YOU FOLLOW THE RULES.

I mean I don't think if u are going to go from guy to another and be all 'I am in a relationship' that u will get what you want. Except if Allah wanted to and had some hiden plan for you...

Be good and Allah will give you the good. Be truthful to yourself from the start. And fear Allah ♡
Life isn't about love and stuff... it's much more.

And by the way about the going from a relationship to another; if you don't want a husband/wife who have been in a relationship with someone before you then don't go doing it yourself!

But what about love?

Yea well love isn't forbidden ! I mean the prophet Mohammed ( PBUH ) and settna Aisha had the most amazing love story ever ... even with settna Khadija before she died  ♡♡♡  But I advice you to use it carefully. I mean it's a feeling you get and you maybe can't get rid of it ... but just use it in the halal way. Don't go all nuts and say that we need to live our life .. because later on this won't be good for you!

And plus if you put limits from the start you won't get to a level where your life have fallen down just because of a smile...

YEA A SMILE !! AND IT EVEN START WITH A STARE !!

Cycle of HARAAM :

Look--> look again--> look once more--> stare--> stare longer--> smile--> saying hi--> starting to talk--> being friends--> beging close friends --> getting closer --> HE'S MY BROTHER --> AND THEN BAM YOU FIND YOURSELF DATING AND THAT'S HARAAAAAAAAAAAM

So yea that's for now ... if I get more ideas I will talk about them later in another chapter ;) thank you for reading ♡ Salam