Writing Tips

thirteen - how to write in a males POV

alright girls, I have the guide to writing in a males POV.

found this on a website and thought I'd share it with you guys.

warning: this is very long. get comfy.

What do you think are some of the differences between how guys/girls think? How we approach a problem? A dangerous situation?

In general, I believe girls are more likely to think empathetically (I'll avoid using the word 'emotionally' because of the bad connotations). Guys are (generally) more pragmatic–for every problem, there is a solution, but often the consequences don't matter as much as simply solving the issue to begin with.

It's generally true that girls approach a problem more logically–they can often see ways around a problem or solutions that guys just simply missed. Exactly how, I'll never know. I think most guys just try the direct, brute-force way first.

With regards to a dangerous situation, I think all guys would like to assume they'd be the first to act bravely. Whether it's a by-product of Hollywood's era of stereotypical action guys, I think most men/guys would look for a physical way to end conflict–the quickest, most direct method you can imagine.

Depending on a guy's natural physique–a big buff guy versus a smaller guy–it might be a direct de-escalation using physical contact, or via using an environmental object: anything blunt, heavy, or sharp.

How do guys deal with their feelings, especially anger and sadness? When should guy characters cry?

Most guys like to imagine they don't have those things called 'feelings.' It's assumed that men should just bury their emotions and move on – this differs with personality traits, but the 'push it deep down' approach works 90% of the time. The remaining 10% of the time, it's bottled up until it eventually bursts.

Guy characters should cry, but it takes a lot to push a guy to such an emotional breakdown–particularly one that isn't anger. That's the difference. You push a guy, he'll get angry; you break a guy, he'll cry.

So think out of the box here–you can't just tear something away, that will only elicit a physical reaction, whereas crippling a guy with something psychologically damaging will bring out the tears.

Men are different, but not complete robots. Losing a loved one will always make someone cry, but guys usually hold back their emotions as long as possible.

Do guys really think about sex all the time? How do they see girls? How much should we stress how guys notice girls?

To the first question–don't believe everything you read in Cosmo magazine. Men don't obsess about sex, and if they do, they're not the type of guy you want to hang out with.

To the second question–guys always notice girls. In the same way that guys always notice every threatening-looking guy in a room, or the same way they notice if there's a television.

The second look–the double-take–that's the big one. The first look doesn't count, that's instinctual. The second look means we're interested, or at least, willing to double-check.

As for girls noticing guys...most girls immediately get the wrong impression, that a guy looking at them is instantly in love. He might be attracted to you, he might also think you're out of his league.