She's Back (Sequel Of FUBU and CBHM)

Prologue

PROLOGUE

To love someone is the best feeling in the world. The joy that those people bring into your life is incredible. Love, on the other hand, has the power to harm a person and transform him or her into someone else. It appears that the changes in his or her life have led you to believe that the person you met is no longer the same person.

Breaking up is difficult, but with someone's help or the advice of experts on how to let go of a relationship, you can turn it into a positive experience. Ending a relationship is a terrible process, whether you're the one who dumps or the one who gets dumped—and that's an understatement. What you do with these raw emotions can turn a failed relationship into a learning experience—and provide you with opportunities.

What you do with these raw emotions has the potential to transform a failed relationship into a learning experience, providing you with the insight you need to move on to a better place.

ALLOW YOURSELF TO EXPERIENCE SADNESS, such as allowing yourself to stay in bed and listen to your favorite breakup song on repeat because you're heartbroken. Allow yourself a week or two nights to cry while watching sad movies, but then set a date and tell yourself, "By this date, I'm going to get up, dress, and go out."

PLAN A REUNION WITH YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS. Distraction is an excellent way to divert your attention away from your problems, especially if you make time to enjoy yourself with friends and family who care about you and are always there for you.

MAKE PLANS TO GO FOR A HIKE OR STROLL WITH A FRIEND. Participate in trivia, go on a treasure hunt, or dress up to make it memorable; host a socially isolated hangout in an outdoor driveway or fire pit; or gather a group of friends. Spending time with friends can help you avoid thinking about the person you're trying to forget.

PRACTICE SELF-CARE is another way to distract yourself. If taking a bath or reading a good book doesn't help, try listening to music that makes you happy or reminds you of a happy memory, calling an old friend, or participating in some virtual or social distance volunteering to help others.

TREAT YOURSELF TO SOMETHING YOU WOULDN'T DO OTHERWISE—a decadent takeout meal, a splurge purchase—at the very least, so you can be kind to yourself. Many people forget that "You must love yourself in order for someone else to love you." and reframing and focusing on that can be beneficial.

KEEP THE GOOD TIMES IN MIND. Taking stock is necessary in order to see the big picture in a more constructive way. One approach is to focus on the positive aspects of your relationship.

DISCOVER YOURSELF FOR THE FIRST TIME. We all make sacrifices to be with the person we love, even in the best of relationships. “You have to account for and care for others, so you have to consider their preferences, right?”

You may enjoy going to the beach, but if your partner does not, you may have missed out on most beach vacations during your relationship. Returning to your former interests, on the other hand, can help you cope with the loss in a healthier way.

AT ALL COSTS, A REBOUND RELATIONSHIP SHOULD BE AVOIDED. Reconnecting with someone soon after a breakup is a bad idea, especially if you were the one who was abandoned. But it's understandable—a it's way to escape the agony and loneliness. It's also a way to avenge your ex and prove to her (and yourself) that you're desirable. I guarantee you'll have a bad time if you date too soon after being injured. You'll be much more hurt if that new person plays with you, abandons you, or ghosts you.

If you were the one who left, you were almost certainly thinking about it for a long time, and once you've recovered from the upheaval of the breakup and built a new life for yourself, you might be ready to date again. There is no such thing as a breakup that is entirely negative or entirely positive. When we're hurt, it's all too easy to focus on the negatives and overlook the positives.