NECROCITY TIMES - Issue #1 - HALLOWEEN SPECIAL

Advice - My girlfriend is a vampire!

Dear Agent #2,

When I came out as a trans woman to my girlfriend, she didn't seem to mind. She pulled me into her arms and gave me a long kiss and said she loved me as I was, for who I am. I love her so much, but...

She recently came out to me as a vampire. At first I kind of suspected, what with the night shift and deathly pale skin and how she loves kissing my neck. And while it feels better to be honest with each other about who we are, I'm not sure about the future. About...us.

I kept thinking, "Why didn't she tell me when we first met?", "What do I do now?", "Does this make me a necrophiliac or something?"

I asked her how she got her blood and she said she wasn't sure yet, but she wanted resources on reputable delivery. She wanted me to love and support her, but...

I'm not sure how I feel about this. If she's a vampire, that means she lives forever, right? That means she'll still be young and beautiful while I'm an old woman. I don't want to be some pretty toy to distract her from the unraveling decay of eternal life. And what if she wants to get into something kinky like...like I don't know, stake-play or something?

I want her to genuinely love me! Maybe I should become a vampire, too...

What do you think?

- Vampire's Vixen

Dear Vixen,

OH! We run a blood drive here at the WPRS! If her local doctor isn't willing or able to supply her with blood from a blood bank, she can talk to the Inhuman Resource Director here at the WPRS and we'll arrange for a fresh delivery each week. Blood is donated from willing volunteers or grown in our lab downstairs. It's important for her to take care of her health, even in the afterlife.

As far you, though...

Just because you know now that she's part of the undead doesn't mean she is suddenly less worthy of your love and affection; that's a little sanguivoriphobic of you, don't you think? Blood-eaters love and have relationships just like any other.

I mean, you love her, right? For who she is as a person? You loved her before you knew her physiology? Why should that change now?

Sure, there may be some new logistics involved, but you can learn to navigate that together (for example, if she wants to get involved in stake-play, make sure you use a safe word and be safe! And if you're not comfortable with that, just say so and she should respect your boundaries.)

You can do some research on the internet on "How to Love a Vampire" and there should be some other people who are in the same position that can give you encouragement and ideas on how to support her.

The best resource though? Your girlfriend. She knows herself better than anyone and she can tell you what she needs from you. She shouldn't be your sole source on vampires, because I mean, every vampire is different and that's a lot of emotional labor on her part, so you can research basic things online and then ask specific things about her.

Why didn't she tell you first thing?
I mean, pfft, do you go around introducing yourself as a 'human'? Is that the only or most interesting trait you have to offer someone?

I mean she's shared this personal bit about herself at her own pace and comfort, because she trusts you. What if you had been a Hunter? Even in this day and age, and all the progress we've made in society, there are those that would think to hurt vampires. Or reject them.

Just remember her vampirism isn't about you: this is about her. She is who she is and you shouldn't be the one to determine that, nor should you try to look for a 'cure'. Just be supportive and talk to her about your feelings. Look for encouragement from others in a similar situation.

If ultimately you decide that you can't be with a vampire or you aren't attracted to vampires, aren't attracted to her, then that's your call and your life and I'm sorry. She'd be better off without you, as painful as it will be.

But if you love her for her, who she is as a person, then I have faith that you will find a way to make it work for both of you!

-Agent #2