The Language Of Motivation (Completed)

Chapter 10: Learning to trust again

Putting your trust in people is like trying to tame a lion. You never know if they respect you enough for you to trust them more. Trust is not something you can just buy at a store. You have to earn it, and the way to earn ones trust starts with you. Often time I see persons posting on the internet all sorts of excruciating quotes and pictures about trust, which really makes people feel sympathetic towards them; what I really cannot fathom is the fact in which we expect to gain another person's trust, when we ourselves are not giving it to begin with. Loyalty doesn't come until you've mastered honesty and respect. When people are able to put their trust in you, not only will they trust you, but they respect you more. I know how contemptible it feels to lose your trust in someone. Especially if you had respect for that individual. You feel disappointed, you feel broken, ashamed, but with all that you cannot let that allow you to forget the moral of putting your trust in someone. It may seem stupid and unfair, but it's not about how you feel; it's rather about what's right. The Bible states that we should trust in the Lord with all of our hearts, and lean not unto our own understanding. That mean no matter how much it seems stupid, trust him nevertheless because he will direct our path; when he does, you will now learn how to still trust others who have done you wrong. The truth is, nothing hurts more than feeling betrayed by someone you love and trust. Betrayal can come in many forms, such as dishonesty, disloyalty, unfaithfulness, or withholding, you name it. Each of these feels like a moral violation that cuts to the very core of your emotional soul and plunges you into a place of deep psychological distress. Of course it's hard to trust someone who defies you and what you stand for. It's even harder to still have respect for them, but if we fail to stay honest to ourselves and others, we're no better than them because we're depriving ourselves of the importance of doing what's right. It seems utterly ridiculous, right? Yeah, I know. You know how I've got people to respect me? I did not build reputation to work my way to where I am today, I rather build a level of good character that will be able to withstand even under pressure, and trusting someone who repugnantly spat in your face is exactly the kind of pressure that I'm talking about. Sometimes I really don't know how I did it, but because of the love I have for God, I learn how to forgive and trust people regardless of what they have done. Yes you can do it also. I'm merely a human being just like you. Let's not get trapped in being brainwashed that if he did me wrong, I will render the same evil he rendered on me two years ago. Let it go. I'm not telling you to forgive and forget, but what is right and will allow you to make a difference in yours, and other person's life. Learn to trust again.