Beyond Words

40. Mumma

Adaa POV

Shaadi ke baad aisa kyu hota hai ki
ladke ko dho ghar milthe hai 
aur
ladki be ghar
ho jati hai.

'After Marriage.
Why does it have to be
two homes for a man
and
no home for a woman'

When I was a kid, I used to think. Why do they cry for Vidaai? I mean it's not the first time they have left without their parents, they have been to hostels, gone to various other states for jobs and studies. They even spend a whole year or two without visiting their parents. Then why now?

Growing up I realized, it's not that easy. your whole life changes when you get married. no one judges you when you are single but once you get married your every action is noticed, you said to behave like a typical Indian bahu(daughter-in-law), serve everyone in the house, and take care of everything when you barely know how to take care of yourself. 

Your one mistake and everyone is ready to roast your parents, as if they are the best parents and had the best children. No matter how much your mother-in-law tries to be your mother she can never be, cause a mother's heart can never consider a daughter and daughter-in-law the same. You can't blame them because the title daughter-in-law comes with certain expectations, and responsibilities. 

you can't bitch about your daughter getting up late because she works late at night, but for daughter-in-law, she has to manage both if cannot she can quit the job. You feel so happy and peaceful when your son-in-law helps your daughter such a responsible husband, but for your son a controlling and bitch wife who makes him do all the works she has to do. 

If your daughter doesn't know how to do something, she is a kid, but for daughter-in-law, her parents didn't teach her anything. If your daughter wears whatever she likes, it's comfort but for your daughter-in-law it's inappropriate. when your son-in-law presents something to your daughter it's love and affection, but your son presenting to your daughter-in-law it's a waste of money.

I don't know if Vishruts mom like the above mentioned mother-in-law or not. but now when I am walking to the car I can feel the invisible string of heart pulled by their silent pleas of not wanting to leave me and their responsibility as parents.

"I don't want to come with you Vishrut", I said making him turn and I could clearly see the shock and pain written all over his face.
"Adaa, you ok? Is there a problem? I can sort it out, just a word and I will do it. But don't say that. ", his voice was low as if he was pleading. 
"Didi (sister)", the moment my eyes landed on my brother I just wanted to leave everything and be with him. I can't go, I don't want to. I ran towards him and he held me in a tight hug.

"I don't want to go, I just want to be with you. I don't even care about my company I just want to be with you.", the tears which were hiding behind came rushing down my face as I talked.
"It's not easy to find someone you love. people spend all life finding the one for them, but you have your chance waiting for you, go grab it. I won't go anywhere, I will be right behind you whenever you need me and even when you don't need me. you don't even have to call me just turn around and you will find me with my hand open like Shahrukh Khan.

Don't ever think this is not your home, it has always been and will always be. I am sure jiju will not let you feel our absence, but still miss us, come home, spend time with us, and don't always stick to your man." his eyes are red from the lack of sleep, more stress, responsibilities and most importantly the cry session we did now.

He took me to Vishrut keeping my hand Vishurts which he held so smooth yet firm grip as if I am sand which slips more when you hold it too tight. 
"Everyone in life hurts us, intentionally or unintentionally. But that doesn't mean we should leave everyone, it's just you have to decide who's worth the pain. He deserves you", I never thought my brother could talk like this, this emotional.