Advice From A Gay Guy

Finding Yourself

Question: So I have been listening to Black Veil Brides and I can't listen to it in front of my dad because he doesn't like screamo and I don't want him to verbally put me down like he always does, how can I be myself? I'm too shy to.

ALRIGHT BITCHES TIME TO LEARN HOW TO FIND WHO YOU ARE! OR AS THE TITLE SAYS FINDING YOURSELF!

STEP ONE: Start off with a clean slate

So pretty much what this means is that you want to start new. Develop your own rules not what others say (i am not saying go against your teachers. More like standards for yourself). Your own standards not what others say you should fit.

STEP TWO: Remove bad habits

This could be something like nail biting or smoking or maybe you want to eat healthier.

This might mean rehab or therapy for something's like eating disorders, depression, etc...

STEP THREE: Work on positive self-talk

Work on positive self-talk, instead of putting yourself down try pulling yourself up and compliment yourself.

STEP FOUR: Find your solitude

This one is pretty important because we all need a break from reality for a little bit. Try creating a happy place or somewhere you can go and relax. Whether that be the park or in room reading a book. Maybe you enjoy drawing, set up a little place where it is just yours to draw. Some alone time can help you think out certain things and give you some peace.

STEP FIVE: Find your passion

Find something you love so much and will work really hard to achieve. Whether that be becoming an artist, photographer, doctor, lawyer, a zebra trainer (is that a thing), etc... And set your mind on it and work towards it.

STEP SIX: Realize that you are beautiful/handsome

Realize that everything/everyone has flaws and its those imperfections that make us beautiful. Realize that there will always be people who judge and hate on people but they are not your problem, that is their own problem that they need to care for. You will never be able to please everyone and if you spend your whole life doing that you really aren't living your life, you are living the life that some people want you to.

STEP SEVEN: Negative

Try to 'abandon negative' which is just be concious of your judging and be open to new things, you never know what you might like.

STEP EIGHT: Failure is natural

You will fail, its how we learn. Try to be open to failure no matter how wierd that sounds because if you fail you are learning. And then you keep trying until you get it right, like a cookie recipe (i really would love a cookie right now).

STEP NINE: You are not alone

Remember you are not alone, other feel this way too. YOU ARE NEVER ALONE AND YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GO THROUGH IT ALONE! There are tons of people who have felt the way you have:)

STEP TEN: Remember you are unique

What the fuck is normal? I honestly dont get that besides normal is sooooo overated being yourself is the new now! So go and try on your own unique style. Dress how you want to dress, listen to what you want to listen to and let the haters keep on hating while you are living your life the way you want to.

Have a wonderful day bitches xoxo