Advice From A Gay Guy

"Being Gay is a Choice"

Question: Isn't be a gay a fucking choice? Like you talk as if it isn't. Like were you bored of girls and decided you liked guys better? And then you get frustrated with girls who say 'pity you are gay.' like get a grip of yourself you fag.

Okay so this question has been in my anon question for a couple of days but i needed to think through how I could explain this to a person that was confused about the whole being gay topic.

I want to clarify something being gay is not a choice. I never woke up one day and went "hey I think I want to be gay." That didnt happen. I didnt choose to be gay, I can understand how this is hard for some to take in because there isn;t this answer we can give you that you will be happy with.

Being gay is the same as being lesbian or bisexual and straight. You feel attracted to a certain gender or person and thats not your fault. Love is love. We aren't any different from a straight person who loves someone.

I think the misconception about us is that we chose this path when really, we love who we love. And to tell us we cant is the same as telling a straight person they can't love who they want to because you think it is wrong.

It wasn't that i was bored with girls, it was I never felt any connection, anything that drew me to them. I was drawn to guys, I felt a connection with them and I knew that I liked guys not girls. The thing that frustrates me about girls coming up to me and saying 'pity you are gay' is because it shouldn't be frowned upon and I understand some people might not frown upon it and you might actually like that person or you think they are cute and that is totally okay.

To me it isn't a pity because I love who I love and to tell a person that its sad that they love who they love or are who they are, it just... I dont know I just, i just get frustrated with it and its not like im angry but it is something that you...just dont say that to a person.

I dont know this is a really, this is a topic that is difficult to explain to a person when they think. I dont know it is just.

The whole point of me deciding to answer this is because I didn't choose this, like I love who I love and that is that.

Do you really think I wanted to be bullied for who i like? I dont think some people understand that it's not like that. Its something that happens...its not. I dont know this is just something that I thought I should answer.

So yeah its not a choice, it just happened that way.

I think people need to realize we are human and we love who we love and we shouldn't be bullied or hated on for that fact. Like you love who you love and that is that.

Have a wonderful day bitches xoxo