Advice From A Gay Guy

Another big chapter

Yup! It's another chapter of A LOT of questioQuns! I have recieved quite a lot questions regarding sexuality and all that jazz so imma make a chapter of it!

Let's get started!

Question: I LIKE THIS GUY! HOW DO I KNOW IF HE IS STRAIGHT OR GAY! HELP!

The only way you know is by asking him or if he is out openly about being gay then you would know. The thing i have never liked is the gay stereotypes, there are some of us that fit into that curriculum but most of us don't so do not assume. It can lead to trouble.

Question: hi so i'm gay and i'm afraid to come out to the people from my class bc most of my classmates are homophobes and i don't really know what to do, please help me.

I have said it a million times and I will say it again. Only come out if you are comfortable, i always say do it when it is right but you if your life will become endangered for coming out I do not advise it. I have shared the story of my homophobic father and his family and it is tough but he eventually accepted it. If you feel like you should come out, do it and stay by your friends and family who are your support. Remember that you are you and that the shit they say doesn't matter because you are you and there is no reason to be ashamed of who you are and who you love.

Question: I recently came out to my mom as bisexual by accident and she is fine with it I have friends like that but now it seems a little awkward and idk how to deal also she said how do you know I just don't think you are old enough/had life experience to decide you bi.

Your mom might need to warm up to the idea a little bit more and that's okay. Just keep true to who you are, don't try to change for her. It's always saddened me when I heard a person has said this to another person. Honestly, there are people who go through stages of wondering if they are lesbian or bi or gay and its totally normal. But it's not related to age, some quesiton when tehy are 10 and some question when they are 20 or 30 or 40. It really doesn't have to do with age. It's all about you feel about another person and only you truly know who you love.

Question: do you think being gay or lesbian is more accepting than being bisexual.

Just from personal experience with my father's side of the family, they have told me straight up that they would accept me more if I had "chosen to be bisexual" but that's just it, i didn't choose to be gay, i just am. But i honestly they are all something that is just at the same level at acceptance, its really dependent on the person though. Some may accept bisexual's over gay's and lesbians or vise versa. I wish though that all could be accepted because its who we are.

Question: Hay gurl hay! Ive always been the gay "stereotype" and bullied for it. I have a strut to my walk, Im sassy, and have all girl friends. I dont try to act like this or anything, its just me. I know suicide isnt the answer, duh. But Im starting to have anxiety attacks at random times. I need your help.

Hey there! It saddens me to hear that you are bullied for who you are, that really breaks my heart, i hate hearing that others are bullied. It just breaks my heart. You are perfectly you and please dont change. You are amazing the way you are and your personality is wonderful and i think you are kick ass. I am no expert on anxiety attacks or anything, i cant be of much help other than to point you to maybe talking to a doctor and they can help you to decide how they want to take care of the anxiety attacks. Although i can give you some information on some ways to ease the anxiety. What my therapist told me to when I was having a panic attack (i know this is different from anxiety but breathing techniques and there are similar ways to treat them) was to be reflective and just literally talk logic into myself. Since panic attacks and anxiety attacks have shortness of breath, try different breathing patterns and remember to take deep breaths.