Advice From A Gay Guy

The HUGE chapter on love/relationships/etc

THATS RIGHT! You didn't read it wrong, I am answering as many questions about love that I can. If i havent mentioned your questions its probs because I answered it in the other chapter of crushes, i've answered it in this or i really dont feel like i could give you any advice that would help you.

Question: I really love someone but they are dating someone how can I deal with this I do not want to break them up or do something bad.

First ya gotta be honest with yourself. You have to realize that they are in a relationship and they are probably really happy. And that it's not an ideal situation what you are in.

Remember the phrase "Three is a crowd". Cheating is never okay. And being in affair with someone isnt either. Imagine you are in a relationship with someone you really really love, okay? and then you find out they are cheating. The feeling absolutely is the worst. You wouldn't ever want to feel like that, so don't put another person through that.

try and get over it, easier said than done, I know but you have to put your attention and love that you have placed on this one person onto something else. A hobby, your job/work, family, friends, etc. Once you fill your life with things like this, there will be less time for you to be sad over the fact that you can't date them. Believe me, i've had crushes too, yeah they kinda suck when you realize you date them but i mean, you'll find that one person meant for you:)

Question: im a cheerleader. very outgoing and well known sociable person, and I like someone the exact opposite. he knows, just I'm not sure if him being and introvert will affect it. I've heard opposites attract. but idk please help.

Well if two people really care for each other, it could work out despite all the issues and difference. THe reality is no person likes exactly the same thing as another. Having little things in common sparks an immediate connection. Try to figure out if you can connect on anything with him. Also him being an introvert and you being an extrovert is okay, the nice thing is you guys can possibly balance each other out with that. What you never mentioned is he returns the feelings, thats the most important part before you think too far into the whole thing. Does he happen to like you back?

Question: Hi. My boyfriend of 3 years and I moved in together. I was unpacking his room alone, and his diary (I swear to god I didnt open it) fell open out of the box. The page it was on was recent, and had suicidal thoughts on it. I dont know how to confront him about it. Help?

If you are to confront him about it, start it out something like this "I've been worried about you lately." "Something seems different about you lately...", start it with a sentence that lets them know you care about them.

Then go on to ask them some questions, dont be prying. Remember to stay calm. Ex: "When did you start to feel this way?"

Ask them how you can support them and help them out. Ask them if they've been thinking about getting some help to sort out these feelings and thoughts.

Give them some comfort. Whenever i'm sad I like to have that security of being comforted whether that be through words or actions. Ex: "You are not alone." although you may think this wont help, to some they just really need to here that they aren't alone in this.

Then try and get them some help, talk to someone who can help out. Friends and family can support and care and it really helps but I also advise you get them professional help as well to sort out the feelings and get him to the point where he is happy again.

Question: I like this guy, and i've talked to him a couple times. and he can be super annoying and yet super sweet. one time i talked to him and he just kept opening and closing his mouth. other times i've caught him staring at me, and one time he even complimented me eyes. does he like me?