Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives. When you’re willing to feel it, you can heal it. I thought I was broken and needed fixing. No I was hurt and needed healing, a completely different concept. You were a happy and complete person before they came into your life and you will continue to e a happy and complete person when they leave your life. If you let yourself heal you will be able to be free again to live you life and not be stuck in a house or an apartment all day long while you mope around over someone that hurt YOU. You can’t do that to yourself. They should be the one moping around because they hurt you. And if you are that sad to where they’ve gotten themselves someone new and you’re at home eating cookie dough ice cream on the couch while crying over ‘The Notebook’ and how you’ll never find someone as great as Ryan Gosling or Rachel McAdams is sad. Because you wasted so much time looking for the perfect lover in somebody else, instead of making to perfect love with somebody who has been there for you when you needed them the most.You cannot have this pain hang on you for the rest of your life. You have to be able to get over the situation and move on from it. Because if you don’t get over it, it can and will affect you in so many ways emotionally, physically, and soon enough mentally. Fix it, fix yourself before the problem breaks you and it controls on you. But someone can’t love you if you don’t even know how to love yourself. Because you loved that person at once and you still do. You swore to yourself you would leave them the moment you saw their smile, but you were head over heels for that person but the moment they leave you it's like they took your heart with them. And if you stay friends with them knowing that you're still in love with them you're just making harder on yourself as a person. Crying yourself to sleep every night because you want them back in your arms or want to be back in their arms. It’s like you’re hurt because they just told you they have a crush on someone else and you’re deeply in love with them and it’s worst when you know they really feel for that person. It's crazy how replaceable you are to them but not vice versa. To actually be confronted with somebody taking your spot, doing the things you used to do. It’s insane how things can change, how weird feelings are. One day you’re in a loving relationship, next day you are replaced by someone else. It’s scary how you can be into somebody for such a long period of time. Accepting that the other part doesn’t love you anymore is hard but harder helping them grow a new love, towards another person. Or when you you say ‘I love you’ to each other you mean it romantically and they mean it platonically. But soon enough you’ll let yourself break from that person to become your own person and not put up with their lovey dovey stories while you feel heartbroken over the fact they found someone so quickly and you’re still depressed walking around acting as if everything is fine knowing deep down that you're not and you want to scream it out so bad where everyone in the world can hear your sorrow because that person left to go to find someone that’s not you. Or it could be worse. You’re in love with your best friend of many years and all they do is date people that break their heart and they come to you but you don’t want to tell them you’re in love with them because you don’t want your friendship to be ruined because of you but you want to treat them the way they should be treated and make them feel happy and loved to be with you but you being the person you are don’t go through with it and wait for them to find interest in somebody else, date them, get used by them, break up with them, then run back to you and it’s like a continuation of this until they finally find the right person and you end up on the sidelines waiting but you have to stop waiting before it becomes something you don’t want. But don’t let that person bring you down to your lowest because at the end of the day they lost something that was worth fighting for the whole time they hurt you or oblivious to even notice that you were there for them in the darkest and lightest times because if you think about it best friends are just couples without romance and ex’s are enemies who refuse to show their hatred towards one another.
