Life is a mixture

ANGRINESS !!!

For each one who claims that he/she never been angry or that he/she is always calm and patient, well, answer me these questions:
Do you FEEL? Do you have EMOTIONS ? Do you get effected by your SURROUNDINGS in certain situations ?
Absolutely. We are humans, and one of our features is feeling, to feel positive emotions and negative ones according to what surrounds us and what's happening, so one of the causes of this feature is ANGRINESS, which is the explosion of negative emotions pressed in big amounts inside the soal and was forced to burst out through actions or words.
In this article you won't find ways to avoid ANGRINESS, because to be honest, ANGRINESS isn't always bad for us; ( we shouldn't be cold hearts forever, we should feel so we should be angry sometimes) in this article you will find the times you get angry and how to CONTROL it when it happens, in other words CONQUER it.

a) When you are under pressure/ nervous. It can really happen to each one of us, when we have to do a task or a commitment in too short time and with so much effort, when a manager or principle has to do certain things suddenly and in hard circumstances or else he/she will fail or lose everything, when a student has so much long hard exams, homework, or projects to do but in a few days even though they need much more than the time given, or when you really start doing your work with everything happening but you feel that it's not working or you won't make it on time. Those situations will make you nervous, and for other people those circumstances will make them too nervous, that they become angry of what's happening and of what bad results might happen. I totally understand that feeling, but here is the solution to conquer it whenever it appears ( Not avoiding it, let's be real, the only way to never feel or be in that kind of situation is not to work at all in the beginning which isn't right to do ):
• Stop what you are doing no matter how much time is left
* Calm yourself down + exhale and inhale
* Revise what's happening and think of a good affective solution since how you are doing the work isn't really working.
* Have hope and get to work, encouraging and recharging yourself with positive energy whenever you feel nervous
b) When you fail or lose sth or someone. That's really hard on almost everyone; when you fail at sth you really worked hard to get and sacrifice so much for it ( What?Some people sacrifice so much in their goals, don't blame them ) and then suddenly and simply it all goes away, or even when you lose someone you love dearly and was so important to you or when you lose sth precious and valuable. When that happens, I won't be surprised if you start blaming yourself or others, and so getting angry on yourself or others for what happened, or even start regretting what you did or feeling guilty for what you didn't do, I totally understand how it feels and what kind of hard time you are going through but what isn't so acceptable is to start losing friends/ family or DESTROYING your live, and that's the level that you must conquer ANGRINESS in the beginning for so you won't reach. So when that kind of angriness get you which will definitely happen ( expect if you don't care about goals so failing isn't that affective since your goal wasn't that important to you or if you are cold hearted that you didn't feel a thing when you lost ), you must conquer it by following those ways:
* As fast as you can, go to another room alone.
* Don't try calming yourself before bursting your angriness out no matter how long or hard it is.
* Calm yourself by breathing and washing your face ( not with HOT or WARM water of course, no matter how uncomfortable the COLD water is )
* In the next FEW days, find interesting great things to do that will distract you somehow from what happened.
* Then immediately continue living like you used to before you lost that someone and remember the GOOD memories that you had together whenever his/her name is mentioned so you would focus on smiling and laughing ( so his/her name won't be bad names that bring sadness but special ones that bring back happiness and makes people laugh ) . In case you failed, then you must immediately start thinking and working on solutions and marking the mistakes you made and how to avoid them.
c) When you get annoyed toward something. When someone does or says something bad or annoying to you, for example, getting your important hard work project ruined by a child ( I can assure you that it happens when with almost everyone that has little brothers or sisters), someone stealing or copying your new amazing idea, when someone lies on you badly, when you know that someone was gossiping about you in a really bad horrible way ( even though you must ignore the gossiping, because it's not worth your time or effort to stop anyone who gossips specially that the gossiping proves that you are such an important person. Anyway, that's not our topic for today), or when someone talk to you in an annoying or not respecting way in front of you. In these situations conquering angriness doesn't mean to forget everything that happened it's to:
* Hold on and don't show any angriness. If it's a saying then you must breath and think of the suitable right words to say in a respecting right way that will defend yourself.
* If it was an action, you have to get into another place, explode. Finally after all that, ask who saw it: what happened EXACTLY ? before accusing anyone ( to be in the safe side and not to make someone else angry when you accuse him/her with sth that he/she didn't commit )
* After you are sure of the person responsible for the action, confront him/her seriously, understanding, and nicely so she/he get the wanted right message and never repeat it again.
d) When you are sick/ when you feel incapable or useless. Yes, it happens to people who lose their ability to do or make sth suddenly out of a health problem that prevent them from doing or making certain main actions, when they aren't capable of doing the activities that they were used to doing it. Some of those kind of people will get angry on their state and how they have to depend on others since they can't walk/see/ or move any of their limbs , specially how they can't do what they like without a helping hand. Those kind of people will be frustrated and so tired personally more than physically. Some of you might disagree or not believe, but still it's true though, uselessness can lead to being angry on themselves, since they will be reminded of their disability whenever they want to do sth. If anyone got or have gotten put in their position, may these following steps ease your state:
* Distract yourself for days and try to avoid anything that involves your disability but NOT forever
* After having some fun and being happy and glad, start searching and trying medical solutions that might get you better or cure you faster, and ask and follow the doctors specialist advices ONLY, not random no experts people 's advices that will make your state worse.
* Healing might take too long and it might never happen, so stick with quotes and statements that will genuinely make you feel positive and glad .
* Don't exhaust yourself too much when you are training or following the doctors instruction, do it step by step, don't rush, so you will keep going even if the process is taking long ( rushing will make you go back to zero and even make it hard to start instead of stepping forward, after all stepping one step is better that zero steps ).
* Appreciate each progress and change in your condition, so you will keep going with hope.
* Don't ever let your disability make you miss a chance you have been waiting for, try to go for it but be CAREFUL, if it was so dangerous for your condition then try doing a part of it. Anyway don't lose an opportunity that you really love that won't ever happen again. Of course don't go and do everything you want, that will affect your condition badly, but go for the most important that can't be delayed until you get cured, because you will be more frustrated on yourself for letting your disability get on the way to your goals, and ignoring that will make your state even worse.

e) When you are defending someone. I mean when you hear someone talking ill (gossiping) about one of your friends or family that are close to you by heart more than blood, or when you see someone no matter who he/she is treating who you dear terribly and unacceptably, or even when someone is trying to hurt or literally kill ( it might happen) a person that you love. Some people will totally go in rage on whoever is attacking and start hitting that person or ripping him/her piece by piece using too harsh bad words. I totally get it, FIRST: because it's a big proof of your true feelings and loyalty towards whoever your defending, so no wonder you got frustrated , SECOND: because I seriously get so angry when it happens to the people that have places in my heart that it sometimes gets hard not to slap or say the harsh words or actions that person is doing to my love ones. But but, in the same time, am not saying that hitting or ripping is the right respond and defending way, nor it's being calm or ignoring the whole situation is better, what I am trying to say is to feel angriness but you must let your mind control the way to react and defend not your angriness, so it the end you will really defend him/her in a right way, although the whole process might take more than that so show that you care and angry but act wisely. Well, for me, I get angry, conquer the angriness before going to action, defend wisely, and (this is extra ) keep telling myself that I won't do that bad thing that the attacker did to anyone and how annoyed I got so I won't do it to others.
There are of course other situations, other ways, other times that people get angry and of course other solution that works and maybe are more effective, but the POINT remains that everyone must CONQUER ANGRINESS
Next and last article for " Feeling we must CONQUER" chapter is JEALOUSY