Life is a mixture

Negativity

Have you ever wondered or gone through your memories to remember a bad day, or you been reminded by it once, and then you stop and think of the reason why it was so terrible to you??? And in the end, you find out it's because one thing or situation that went wrong or in a way that affected you badly and so you felt annoyed/sad / nervous/ angry/bored all day???
All those bad no good feelings that you felt  after being put in such an unexpected bad situation and so ruined your whole day is an energy that can happen to anyone called NEGATIVITY.
So the battle of this article will be:
               YOU VS. NEGATIVITY
Since it's a battle and you once or more lost to your opponent, we have to find out the reasons why that happened, ( the sources of negativity ) :
* UNREAL JUDGMENTS: Not meaning the fantasy judgments of course, but the no good judgments that people cast on you harshly as if they know you perfectly ( even though no one knows you perfectly but you ), and of course that aren't true but  you will be affected or be hurt emotionally by those judgments, which I don't blame you for feeling that ( since you can't live life without those kind of obstacles even if you were successful or loved by many ), but what is not healthy and not logical of you is to actually let them scar you deeply in mind and heart. I know that sometimes people judge you after they saw how you react or deal with certain situations and so they judge you according for what they saw of you, but the UNREAL judgments are the judgments from others that define you or decide what you will be, such as: " You will always be a disgrace to us ", "You will never succeed in your life ", "Your life will be sad and bad from now on ", " You! Achieve that big goal of yours, in your dreams". To be honest, those judgments that are based on certain situations with no total knowledge and awareness of who you REALLY are and what you are CAPABLE of, are kind of funny, stupid, and wrong, and here's what you got to tell those kind of people or at least tell yourself ( the evidences why they are not REAL ): " I know that I failed or missed up so badly and a lot of times, but the fact remains that what you are saying is not true, first, because you didn't see all the situations that I have been through in my life for you to judge me and my own life, second: you aren't a GOD so how come you know what my future is going to be or what I will be, third, people change and am not an exception"( who disagree with me on the three points). No one can define you or your life, it's up to you to be or do whatever you truly want. BUT BUT, as I say for every law or fact ( not the scientific ones of course ), in life there are some exceptions for what I explained that will actually make those judgments REAL and happen, it's if you fall into their trap, believed them, and let their bad affect be upon you for a long period of time or FOREVER, because you turned those NEGATIVE judgments into facts ( that are not real except for whoever give himself or herself to them) and so you make your life based on them even after all the logical reasons not to follow them or let them affect you NEGATIVITY . Although, avoiding them isn't the solution, but controlling  how they affect you is, instead of turning those judgments into facts, turn them into challenges that you eagerly want to prove wrong, let them be one of the reasons you would love your life to change to not do them again so in the end you will admit proudly to yourself FIRST that they were wrong.
* Bad influence Friends: (No matter how uneasy what you are about to read would seem, read until the end.) You shouldn't ( for your benefit) be friends with the kind of people that bring or DRAG you to negativity; who make fun of anything ( not as joking but with meaning ) you took as your ambition and goal to do, who keep discouraging you or underestimating you, they might be fun and cool to be around, but if they were one of the reasons of your unproductive no good days and feeling, then you should leave them so you will have a higher possibility to achieving your goals ( they are not the main reason of you not achieving your goals but they do affect ). BUT but, if IF you and them are really friends that care for each other but in different ways ( even though that's kind of hardly ever to happen, with all the combination mentioned), and you really felt bad for leaving them, then you can survive life with them plus achieving goals IF you really are strong and uneasily affected, and you stick with your ambitions no matter what anyone would say, but be careful and sure of you have that character ( uneasily affected ), and you might ALSO rain on your friends some POSITIVITY later.
* Sudden events: We all felt annoyed or frustrated whenever we cancel or don't do something we were excited about just because something suddenly came up, it could happen in holidays or at work or in any normal day. Unfortunately, some people will get way TOO frustrated or annoyed and so they would cancel or ruin all the day, I know that it may sound boring and depressing if you were in a holiday to a camp and your car got damaged or couldn't move in the middle of the way to there, and you tried but failed to get it moving, and so you are faraway thinking that your day or the holiday itself is COMPLETELY ruined, all the fun activities you were intending to do with your friends there have been canceled. But you also can't judge your day or define it until it finishes, same thing with holidays, to be honest: which situation is better sitting down doing nothing but feeling sorry on yourself or  angry on your car and what is happening OR get yourself together, try finding a solution to reach your destination and then if that didn't work try really hard to find something fun to do using what you have in hand and what surrounds you instead of doing NOTHING ( at least the possibility of having fun and not saying that your day is ruined is higher to happen than to sit down feeling NEGATIVE ) ??? It's never been over to change the worst day into one of the best, if you really had hope and you tried, even if that day finished with you trying really hard and truly all the day and making mistakes, at least you did something and you made mistakes that you will avoid and be aware of next time so this situation won't happen to you again and you might as well have learned new useful things from that SUDDEN day.
* Failing and disappointment: ( I won't explain this part so much, since it's been explained with details in FAILURE article ) Now that if you have ever made the biggest failure in the world that really affected you and others, your life ISN'T OVER, which leads us to the point that it isn't over to try again after studying the unaffected useless choices or actions and the reasons of them that made you fail, plus it doesn't help at all to get disappointed or upset ALL the time, because if you really did that without trying , you will really be failing continuously. Whatever happened had happened in the PAST and now you are in the PRESENT, so don't ever look back to feel what you felt again and again but THINK of the causes and solutions to IMPROVE and prepare for your bright possibly FUTURE.  

Here are your weapons for that battle after knowing what you have to do whenever one of the enemies' sources opens up in front of you:
1) Paint yourself with POSITIVITY
2) Have HOPE
3) DON'T stop to feel but to THINK of how to get out of the trap you are in.

Being positive or optimistic: isn't denying all the negative things happening or underestimating them, nor it's about sticking with hopes without having some results, it's not exaggerating that life is easy and happy, it's about fighting negativity with hopes genuinely felt and weapons that affect and really solve, not only believing in positive quotes but also doing them with confident that with everything bad going we will stick and work hard to try to make the possibility of winning and achieving and feeling happy happen despite the other possibility of failing or feeling negative that is there. Anything no matter how bad or good it is can affect NEGATIVELY or POSITIVELY, because the possibilities of those two will remain no MATTER what you face.

I hope I really added to your life more positively. Let me know if you ever tried PAINTING YOUR DAYS WITH POSITIVITY before.

Next article, the second article of the "What We Should Fight to pass " chapter, is called JUDGEMENTS, where I will explain every kind of judgment and more details about every type of them.