Life is a mixture

Skills (1)

  For my first article about SKILLS you might require in your work, either when you face an obstacle or it's a big part of your truly desired goal. Those three skills are related to " HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT WITH WORDS ?".

Convincing others of your opinion:

PREPARATION: To do so you have to ask yourself those questions before you start a conversation with people:

What is it exactly am I going to persuade them about? Why do I believe or think my opinion is right or the best ( even though its an opinion so it might seem for others wrong ) ?Is the conversation worth the attempt of persuading them/ is there an important result(s) I require or want out of this process?

INVESTIGATION: Those are information you should know about the people you will convince ( if possible):

Their standards: what do they seriously believe the most. The characters they resemble in a conversation ( honest, tricky, close/ open minded, protective, smart, positive/ negative, short tempered, stubborn, easily bored, emotional, reasonable......etc.) plus their advantages ( spot out how to attack quickly, knows a lot of facts that will go against you...etc).

CONCLUSION: After you look for the standards and characters, you should point out for how you will reply to their questions about your opinion or to their opposite opinion of yours, plus what advantages about your opinion you should clear out that would be close to their characters and standards so they would be persuaded, also be aware of what tricks or advantages they use that will trap you or dug a big hole in your attacks or defense. For instance :

If they were honest, you should use that for your benefit by asking them question that will make them burst out the real answers that will back you up ( that will be on your advantage), plus you should be honest with the facts or opinions that serves the opinion that you want them to be convinced about. If they were short tempered , you should strike with the best weapons ( strong views or evidence for your opinion) plus make your conversation as quick as possible plus avoid what makes them angry so much, if they reached that level, know how to possibly calm them down ( be aware of that before the conversation) If they were stubborn, you should defend their tough attacks ( whenever they mention their opinions) by using real evidence ( historical events, public incidents, or scientific facts), don't talk about your opinion until they are done with their attacks, and obviously the more they are stubborn the more you have to be patient. If they were emotional, you should use emotional reasons that will let them be touched and feel the need to agree with you since you hooked up their weakness ( which might be their strength in conversations ), plus try to be a little emotional too, since they don't agree so much with logical reasonable people ( and the opposite goes if they were reasonable people) If they are protective, link your reasons for your opinion with what they protect ( make them relatable) If they were easily bored, try to talk about what they are interested with which is related to your opinion plus make it as fast as possible. If they know a lot of facts about the topic you want to persuade them about, then try to know more than them specially the knowledge that will back you up.

If they are smart, then you need to let them talk first while you observe their style::

    - If it's attacking your opinion, then wait until they are done with their attacks while you are thinking of how to reply to each attack before talking about your opinion.

 - If it's boosting their opinion, then wait until they are done while you are spotting out the flaw(s) of each defense ( since nothing is flawless) and boosting the flaw with evidence and reasons that makes their boosting no good. When they become speechless ( they have no other boosting to say ), you should attack them with your opinion using the best less flawless advantages hiding the disadvantages, all that before they gain up the strength and time to build their defenses.