Life is a mixture

Be FLEXIBLE too !

   ( I know, I know, it's getting confusing, writing about being strict and now about being flexible, I too had been thinking about it deep, how to be both, that's why I will explain according to situations which determines how to act, FLEXIBLE or STRICT ) 

  First, let's start by the definition and the benefit of flexibility in your path to SUCCESS: 

   Flexibility in lifestyle is to deal with sudden or unexpected or unusual situations even though they go against the rules that been thought and used to, or to fit an unusual positions  easily without expecting it plus in a short time ( when the position take place ). In other words, solving usual( even hard ) problems, passing an expected situations, or even doing well in a position that you were used to, doesn't count as flexibility. For example: dealing with an emergency at work ( something went wrong and must be handled fast), getting through a contest's rules that wasn't as the participants were used to before, or acting out well a hard character that you haven't been prepared for before the show starts within few hours. In these situations you don't follow old rules or ones you are skillful in but rather thinking and applying a different way  or changing the plan to fit the sudden situation in a short time. 

   The advantage that the flexible person holds in the path of succeeding is having the ability to pass through and do well in a sudden unexpected obstacle that pops up in that path without any warning  and needs be passed through fast in order to reach an ADVANCED level or else that person won't get that chance ( reaching an advanced level to success) for a long time or that his/her hard work that he/she built to reach this level will go to waste. In these cases he/she should totally get rid of this obstacle ( no matter how hard  it is and no matter the fact that he/she wasn't ready for it yet) in time to become closer to succeeding his/her true desired goal, and that requires leaving aside ( if truly not needed) the ways he/she had known and been trained for before, and create a different suitable way fast, or he/she should use what he/she had in hand (skill)s or what is available around them ( surrounding either living things or none ones)  to destroy this obstacle. In this case flexibility is a really good effective short cut instead of giving up and starting over again waiting for this opportunity to happen again, so it's better to handle the situation fast and well before it's too late, it's like being a clay that resists the pressure ( having to deal with an emergency) fast  and stay were it is without being crushed ( failing and letting the emergency take control on you instead of being under your control ). In fact, these kind of situations and problems are so often to be upon almost everyone's paths since we don't know what will happen exactly in the future for us to learn and train for the suitable ways to deal with them, it requires different ways that may lead to different ( more or less )  results than expected and planned for, but as some of us understand " Failing doesn't mean the end unless you let it be the last thing you do",  " Trying your best may make you win or lose, but never trying will only make you  lose ", " Not everything goes as planned ", plus " Failing isn't the problem but making the same mistake without learning from that mistake before is ". 

      Second, what are the situations that we should be STRICT in, and others that we should be FLEXIBLE in ? 

   Before mentioning some examples, we should acknowledge that being STRICT and being FLEXIBLE are the same in one point: Not giving in to the sudden situations to move FORWARD, and that's what indicate what you should be FLEXIBLE or STRICT

  Situation 1 : ( As I explained before in the LOYALTY article) Sometimes we are working on ourselves and getting closer to achieving the goal when suddenly a love one matter occurs, so we have to decide to continue ( be strict and do what you were supposed to do without changing the plan ) or to turn ( be flexible and change the plan that could lessen the possibility to succeed either by postponing it for later or doing it fast that might make you do it not like you intended and needed to do ), so according to the what I explained : " Choose what can't be postponed or that effect negatively more ", since the purpose of your decision is to move FORWARD ( not to loss so much ) and since SUCCESS and LOVE ones are both important to you, you must think carefully and deeply about this: does the love one matter can't be handled without so much bad effects for after you finish what you planned to, or is it so urgent that literally can't be postpone, if I continued what is the worst possibility that might happen to my love one, and if I turned, will it affect negatively on my path that it can't ever ever be resolved again, what's currently MORE important for me to DO right NOW? 

   Situation 2:  You are playing a sport with your team against another team, but after a match of not making so much progress for your team because a player got injured, the opponent team wasn't as expected, or your team haven't had the chance to train more before the match started, so your captain, you, and your team are put in a position either to ( be flexible ) change the plan you all were impressive at, or ( be strict) stick with the plan with putting more effort in the plan that haven't worked in the beginning ? Here, you should choose to be flexible if you all believe and think that no matter how much effort you put in the plan it won't work because it's basics aren't suitable with winning on that team, or choose to be strict with the plan believing that you haven't been doing 99% right in the first match and if you do, it will work since you trust that it's effective on this kind of team that play like that . 

    Situation 3: It's almost time for you to show your presentation about your new plan of achieving a goal with your team work or the project the you must show to your teacher, but some how you got so much to do and you only have a day or two ( short time comparing to the time you need to finish which is more than that) to finish it, so you should choose either to change the new plan or project trying to figure out something good and suitable since you aren't sure or confident that you will finish in time in that way, or to ignore that feeling and work harder without changing the new plan  that you think that it's what you and your team work need to success or the project that will higher your mark to pass in school 

    In case, you have other point of view about all this or that you disagree, I would be happy to read other opinions about this important topic in SUCCESS