Life is a mixture

MODERATION !!

* JUDGEMENTS 

   When you judge someone or sth it's either according to: 

- What you want ( truth or lies )

   It's what you want them to hear or believe. Some people try to discourage other people by judging them either with the spiky truth or with rocky lies, which both can lead to harm if it wasn't said carefully with the intention to help not to destroy.

    When saying the truth, you shouldn't lie about it not say it badly. As I mentioned before, if the truth hurts then the lies kill, so judging someone according to lies isn't a solution to make them feel better . As for the hard complete truth, not everyone in this world can handle such a thing without falling apart, but in the same time they have to hear certain truths because they would be lost in an unreal world without knowing them. In that case, you should judge people truthfully but if it was necessary for them to heart that at that moment or if they asked you for your judgment about. Plus be careful not to throw the whole very hard truth at once at them specially if they were sensitive, you could just show them piece by piece, or tell them indirectly. In either way, figure out the best way to tell them ( if it was important or if they asked), but don't ever lie no matter how much you care about them or how much they or you would be sad or upset if they realized the truth. In some situations, it's for the best for them not to know the truth at that time or even ever, but in the same time don't exchange the truth with lies, you either judge truthfully or don't judge. Be moderate in your truthful judgements.

   However, some people try to judge others in order to discourage them either with saying the unessential truth or false lies. That isn't right or good to do. The negative feelings that you feel toward others because of situations or their personalities shouldn't be turned into bad judgments. Don't let these negative feelings drive you to do things you surly know won't help you by any means, it will only hurt the people in front of you. The only thing you will gain is a wasted time you spend only to satisfy your negative emotions, which will want more eventually. You shouldn't let sth that bad and unfruitful ( won't gain you anything useful) control your actions. In the same time you don't have to judge people you dislike. So don't force yourself to judge them either nicely or badly. Be moderate and don't care to judge them, in the first place.

- What do you think ( guess)

   When you witness someone's actions or notice a character, without knowing the motives or all the characters, you intend to judge ( if you wanted to or had to ) according for what you think after all this in a topic you never asked that person about, after you deduct what you saw and how the motives you think of would lead that person to be judged according to them to for another matter. Every rule has an exception, so no matter how smart you are, a one can be mistaken when judging someone without truly knowing them. In the same time, sometimes you need to judge people before meeting them so you could deal with them according to that. In that case be sure to conclude guesses and possibilities after judging them so you would know how to deal with these guesses if they have been confirmed in the meeting, but don't go too far with your guesses, make them normal since you yet haven't known them for you to be capable of judging them too deeply.

- What you heard

    Many people intend to judge others depending on rumors about them or other's judgments, which isn't very dependable source to stick to. Just as people make mistakes, the things they say about others can be mistaken intentionally or unintentionally. So you would be stupid to depend on rumors or on others judgments so you can judge people. Sometimes, you need to take the rumors or what other people say under consideration, but no matter how you take them as high or low possibilities don't ever turn them into facts unless they were from the beginning ( in that case, they weren't rumors or judgments ).