Married To Baseball

Easy, And Fun Too.

Jailyn~

Christian and I sit together going over our medical histories with the specialist in her office, obviously, the most prominent thing sticking out is the whole ectopic. "When I went through that whole process my Doctor then had told me that removing the tube shouldn't really affect my chances of getting pregnant. Like I get we're coming in kinda early in the process of trying to get pregnant but given both of our career paths, we really don't have the same time as other people do."

"Jailyn, there's no problem coming in early in the process. Honestly I almost recommend it to save the frustration of trying and trying and nothing working without knowing if there's a deeper problem," Dr.Terrell comments, "As you are missing that tube it is going to be harder to conceive, definitely not impossible unless something is blocking the other tube. We'll head into the exam room and give you a work up then take an ultrasound to look at your uterus. After that, we'll look through the results of everything, and should we see nothing wrong we'll get a sample from Christian and check on his sperm count to see if it's anything to do with that. Should that come up with no issues as well we can talk further about other options. IVF is a very common route that couples in your situation take and we can talk a little more about that after we find out if there is actually anything wrong or not."

Christian and I share a look, I think he's waiting for me to say something. I nod still looking at Christian before looking back at Dr.Terrell, "Alright."

Dr.Terrell grabs some of the paperwork as she stands up Christian and I both standing after her, "Christian if you'd like you can stay back here for now while we go back to the exam room, I'm sure Jai is alright without you being in there for that."

"Yeah," I comment laughing a little, "You really don't need to see what goes on, I don't actually think you'd want to either." Christian chuckles a little before sitting back down and nodding to me with a small smile before he pulls out his phone. I follow Dr.Terrell back to the exam room.

She shuts the door behind us and pulls out one of the thin little paper sheets and hands it to me before taking a seat, "Alright, I didn't see any red flags at all but I always want to make sure to check-in. Is everything okay with you two? Any issues anything that makes you uncomfortable or feel unsafe in any way?"

"Absolutely not," I reply shaking my head giving her a small smile, "Everything is and has been incredible from the moment we met. Definitely no complaints from me."

"Good," Dr.Terrell replies, "I'll step out for you while you get set, and then I'll come back in and we'll get through the exam. After that, we'll get the ultrasound part to look at everything going on then we can bring Christian back to talk about everything." I nod in response as she stands up again and leaves the room so I can undress how I need to before covering back up with the thin paper sheet. I still hate how these sheet things feel.

"It doesn't look like there's anything that should be preventing you from getting pregnant," Dr.Terrell says coming back into her office now following both Christian and I getting our shit checked out. "It's just a matter of patience at this point for you two. It's been three-four months now since you started trying it's just not happened yet. Physically there isn't anything stopping it from happening other than Jailyns one missing fallopian tube, and that's not a constant issue."

"So basically we just have to keep trying until something sticks?" Christian asks his brow furrowed slightly.

"Essentially yes," Dr.Terrell responds, "Otherwise we do have the option for IVF like I've mentioned previously. What that would be is we'd harvest a few of Jailyn's eggs through a minor procedure that we use an ultrasound to watch as we take a hollow needle through her pelvic cavity to remove the eggs. Then we'd take another sperm sample from you Christian and then mix them together in a lab dish to encourage the fertilization. Once fertilization occurs then the embryos are transferred back into Jailyns uterus about three days after we took the eggs. If the procedure is successful then about a week later implantation takes place."

"What I guess are the risks of it then?" I ask, "And how successful is it?"

"It's got about a forty-five percent of carrying out a pregnancy to a full and live-birth," She replies, "After the procedure, you might deal with small amounts of discharge and basic period style symptoms like cramping and bloating. In extreme cases, there might be heavy vaginal bleeding, pelvic pain, blood in your urine, and a fever which could be signs of some type of infection following the procedure." I nod still following along with her, "The odds of a multiples pregnancy increase as we'd place multiple embryos in your uterus to hope that one sticks. With multiples, there are a lot more risks than just a single fetus pregnancy."

I definitely cannot do multiples. I'm anxious enough about having one let alone more than one. Taking a look at Christian I catch him watching me seeing how I'm responding to everything being put on the table now. It's definitely crazy and a huge decision. I'd rather us be able to just get pregnant on our own. Why can't we just get that so easily?

"It's a huge decision for any couple and while the financial aspect of it doesn't really play too much of a part in this for you two. It is a very emotional and physically taxing experience, especially for Jailyn. This isn't a decision that should be taken lightly and you two should talk about it more before committing to anything. Personally, I wouldn't recommend IVF yet as you've only been trying for about four months. Come this time next year if you two are still not having success it might be a better option, but right now I personally think you two would be better off continuing to try naturally as there wasn't anything wrong from either end that should prevent you from having a successful natural pregnancy."

Christian and I look at each other and he nods at me agreeing with Dr.Torrell. Taking in a breath and letting it out quickly I nod as well. "Alright," I start, "Thank you for everything now, it's definitely a lot to think about."

"Of course," She replies with a smile, "And should you decide on IVF either now or in the future I'd be more than happy to go through that procedure with you both."

"Thank you," Christian says shaking her hand, "We'll be in touch."

Neither Christian nor myself really talk on the way to the car before we buckle in silence. I think both of us are trying to figure out what we want to go with and go forward with from here. Pulling my leg up on the seat I pull my hair up and run my hand through it once. Alright, so Christian and I can get pregnant and there isn't a real reason why I shouldn't be getting pregnant rather than it's just not sticking. I'm not really sure how much longer I can wait to get pregnant now. Going back to playing softball next year wouldn't be the worst thing but it's not what I want right now. We should go for the IVF if I'm not pregnant by January, I don't want to wait any longer than that.

"Where's your head at in this?" Christian asks finally breaking the silence between us, "I know you said that you didn't want to keep trying after January and you'd just go do another season but. . ." He trails off a moment before picking it back up, "Given what we've been told today where's that put your head at?"

"Well," I start before blowing a raspberry through my lips, "For starters, I think we should take a little more time than the five minutes from leaving the office to think about it but as of right now, given there's basically nothing wrong with either of us besides my stupid fallopian tube, we should just keep trying. I think if I'm not pregnant in January we should get an appointment for IVF, I don't want to wait a whole nother year for it to happen Christian."

Christian nods a little taking his hand off the wheel and putting it on my thigh squeezing it slightly once. "Well, that's definitely good to hear because that's what I was sort of thinking too. In season it'd be hard to want to have to be super on top of everything and be able to work with it with game schedules. I've got no problem with you going back to Softball for another season if shit doesn't work out, you knew that though."

"How has us agreeing about what we want to do been the easiest part about all of this?" I ask shaking my head a little as I let out a small laugh.

"I mean," Christian says looking at me with a shit-eating grin, "The sex is pretty easy, and fun too." I snort laughing at him as I shake my head looking back out the windshield before putting my hand on top of his and holding onto it. It'll happen when and how it needs to.