A GIRL LIKE YOU

A few words

Hi there! I just want you guys to stay a few more minutes with me, before you finish the book and put it away.
There are somethings in my life that I really resonates with, things that I really feel important and things that I really want to talk about through my books. A few of them being mental health, general stereotypes and the educational quality of our country.
And this story talks about a lot of stuff including self love, being ready for marriage, the weight of expectations and also about gender stereotypes, so lets talk about that.

Firstly I just wanna say that stereotypes can be nasty, either its due to age or gender or complexion or class or whatever. Stereotypes are basically assumptions about people and situations that you don't know anything about. When people judge you in a bad way or good way on the basis of how they see you, it is totally different than the preconcieved notions of society. The assumptions that have been passing from one generation to another and we hold on to them, clinging on to them like our life depends on them, turning them into some godforsaken laws and rules of society. I know as a human being its not possible for us to not judge or make an image in our heads about a person when we first see them, but if you are still open to know that person and still open to accept them, then I don't think its a bad thing. But if you are so rigid that you can't let go of these stereotypes, then you are the kind of people who make this society that we talk about. Society of 4 people who basically ruin a lot of lives.

Lets take a very common stereotype.
"Women are each other's enemies."
We hear this saying a lot, in our day to day life. People always say that women don't make good friends. Women turn against each other. They bring each other down. But, I wanna say that I have some very loyal and vey amazing friends in my life and none of them is a man. Yes. I've seen hundreds of examples of women standing up for each. I, myself get defensive whenever someone talk something bad about a woman I admire.
Anya supported Kiara. Kiara never hated Preeti. Preeti never let her feelings for Ansh come in the way of her friendship with Kiara. Kiara didn't leave her best friend's side when she needed her. That's the kind of women I wanna talk about.
So no, women are not each other's enemies. Its a sexist comment which was made by an idiot to bring women down.

Next stereotype, "women like it when guys say that they are not like other women."
I am a girl and I hate it, I absolutely loath it when some guy says to me that I am not like other girls.
I wouldn't flip out if he say that I am not like other girls he has ever met. But when a guy says that I am different than other women, it seems like that guy has met every women on this planet. No he obviously hasn't. He is just talking about that because he has heard every stereotype about women and when he actually meets a good woman, he thinks "oh she is different." No sir, she is not different.
No Sir! "Women Don't Run After Money."
No Sir! "Women Don't Choose Fuck boys over the good ones."
Your stereotypes are just wrong.
In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with being compared to other women. All the women in my life are strong, beautiful, succesful. Why on earth would I not want to be any of those things? I am definitely like other women and you know what? I am proud of it.

One more stereotype, "beautiful girls are dumb." So first of all I just wanna say that ugly women don't exist. Also, I am pretty and I know it. I don't try to act like I am nothing great because that would be a lie rather than humbleness. I am not cocky either, I just know that I am pretty and I own up to it. And you know what? I am not dumb. Yes. I never once failed a exam in my life. I have a better common sense than most people and I wrote my first book when I was 15. I am not dumb. Pretty women are not dumb. Its a sexist comment made by people to bring women down. They can't see a women having it all. A women who is powerful and intelligent and beautiful, automatically earn the title of a bitch or a slut. Because people can't seem to stand that she has it all, that she has got her shit together. That she is not a damsel in distress who needs your help. She is not someone who is dependent on you. She is a force to be reckoned with and men are threatened for their man hood when these women walk into the room. And that is how, this sterotype began. That is why they say pretty girls are dumb. No, they are not. My mom is beautiful. And she is intelligent. So is my sister. So is my best friend.