Tolkien Elven Imagines and Headcanons Volume 1

198. TW - Confessing to Caranthir

Request:

TW: Sexual assault

Hi there, I read your rules and I think this falls within the accepted requests (if I misunderstood, so sorry!). How would Caranthir react to someone who has experienced some kind of sexual assault by a partner in the past? Maybe they want to get intimate but they get skittish and eventually confide in him about what happened? This one is kinda personal for me 😅 I realized after some therapy and reflection that my physical relationship with a previous partner was not always consensual. I've processed it well enough, but I haven't gotten to that point with another person since, so I'd love to know how my favorite Feanorian would handle this kind of situation. Thank you and much love (also sorry again if I misunderstood your rules)

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- When you first start getting intimate with Caranthir, as one might in any relationship that they are in, he is already okay with going slow and taking his time to learn and explore you.

- Though when you start showing signs of being distressed and clearly uncomfortable with what is happening between the two of you, Caranthir is quick to stop any and all of what you are doing.

- He asks you if you are comfortable with what you both are doing, not wanting to continue on further if you aren't!

- He loves and adores you and wants every moment to be a happy and enjoyable experience for you.

- Caranthir expects you to be completely honest with him, so if you tell him that you are comfortable and you clearly aren't, this still doesn't push him to attempt to continue anything further.

- He's extremely adept at sniffing out when you are lying to him, and Caranthir will pick up you lying to him about this as soon as you begin to tell him you are fine.

- Caranthir stops you from continuing on with even saying "Everything's fine", telling you that he knows it's not fine and that he needs you to be truthful to him about it.

- Caranthir doesn't want you to end up doing something that you'd regret or would be unhappy with.

- So when you tell him no, you are not okay with going any further, for the most part Caranthir is content with that answer and happy to stop from going any further.

- But he is certainly curious to know why you might so skittish to go on further.

- He gently pokes to ask further, mindful not to be too harsh, so he doesn't come off insensitive or like your answer wasn't a good enough reason as to why you both should stop.

- So when you decide and agree to tell him why, Caranthir brings you to both sit comfortably and him attentively as you tell him why.

- As you explain what had happened to you, Caranthir grows furious with every passing word you speak to him. Every added detail only making the anger swell.

- The idea that anyone could harm someone like that is just atrocious, and it makes him physically nauseous to know you've been treated so poorly.

- Caranthir is quick to comfort you, as he knows divulging something traumatic isn't any easier to talk about no matter how long it's been - that and he knows his reaction is helping.

- Caranthir assures you that he's from angry with you, and that he is glad you could trust him with what happened to you and explains that it's your abuser that he is furious with.

- While saying so, he keeps you pulled snugly into him, working on his breathing to keep his cool and focus on keeping you feeling safe and assured with him there.

- He's not always the best with his words, but here he tries to tell you and assure you that no matter what you two are doing, you are always safe and in control with him.

- Caranthir promises openly to you he'd never do anything that would put you in such an awful position, such as what previously happened to you.

- And mentally he decides the best way to deal with the person who has done what they did to you.

- Caranthir instead focuses on trying to set up some ground rules with you, so you two can continue at a pace that you are comfortable with, even if that means waiting instead.

- Caranthir loves you and just wants for you to be safe and happy when with him, especially when sharing such intimate moments with you.

- Caranthir implements any safe words and trusts that you will use them when uncomfortable, so he never takes anything further than what you are ready for.