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If I'll be asked by others what it's like to be a women who never got a chance to engaged herself in any forms of relationship?
Well, you would feel two emotions: the feeling of being proud, and the feeling of being worried. For some who might be thinking that not engaging yourself into a relationship is abnormal and quite old-school though, engaging yourself into a relationship doesn't make you a well educated one and become knowledgeable about handling relationships.
Reaching adulting stage and not even engaged to any relationship is something a woman should be proud of. Living in this society where temptations are everywhere and you are able to resist from these temptations? It's more than just achieving your dreams. But at the same time you cannot stop yourself not to be anxious and not to feel any worries that maybe you are not really destined to anyone. Still at the end of your anxiousness, the result is being proud of yourself because you are one of those woman being mentioned in a quote,
"I'm not a one in a million kind of girl. I'm a once in a lifetime kind of woman."
Settling yourself into an unguaranteed relationship is dangerous even if your aim is to know one another. Some says to know the person is to be in a relationship together. Well, if it's enforced by the rules of Islam then it can be. But if it's not, it couldn't. To get to know each other is to live in the same roof together.
If someone would ask me, "What made you decide to take that choice, the choice of not being engaged to any forms of relationship?"
Well, do you believe that first love never dies? It's actually true or it can be true. It actually means that when you start entrusting your heart for the first time to someone, you can't easily forget how you felt everything for the first time. It has a big effect to you and to the person you will become. Now, here's the plot twist. Change your mindset from being "first love never dies" into "first and only love that last a lifetime." Here's the differences of the 2 statements.
"First love never dies"
It's not the love that never dies. It's the memories never dies with the person to whom you felt certain emotions for the first time. Most of the time the memories you shared to someone for the first time doesn't last a lifetime especially if the person is considered prohibited to you. Tendency is that, you just let your heart broken and unfixed.
"First and only love that last a lifetime."
When you start to feel emotions for the first time, make it sure you would feel it to the right one. The right one is the one who's destined to you, and the love you would feel is the only love that last a lifetime.
Going back to the question, here is my answer: I want to feel emotions and establish memories for the first time with someone who's destined and written to be mine by Allah. If you can continue making unlimited memories with someone and having emotions with someone that can last a lifetime, why settled yourself for a limited kind of memories and emotions with someone you know it cannot last a lifetime.
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