That first therapy session was hard, some ugly issues and harsh realities came to the surface. The therapist advised most couples either call it quits or stop showing up after the first session. Crystal wasn't happy but she was nowhere near leaving him, Devale felt the same way.
Devale: Why are you looking at me like that?
Crystal: I'm just admiring my fine ass handsome baby daddy. Is that ok with you?
Devale: Absolutely, I'm glad you're in a good mood this morning. I know yesterdays session was tough for you.
Crystal: I'm in a great mood, yesterday's session was rough but it really opened my eyes on some things. I don't show you how much I appreciate all you do for me and my babies.
Devale: You can show me now. I mean them kids sleep, whatcha wanna do?
Crystal: I don't want sex right now Mr.Nasty. I have to get packed for filming. I need to go shopping for a few items.
Devale: Are you taking Amira with you or yall still beefing.
Crystal: Nope, just me and my baby boy, her and that defiant attitude can stay in the house today.
Devale: Oh you standing on business this time huh?
Crystal: I am and stop instigating and do not let her go anywhere with anyone or touch that phone, tablet, or game while I'm gone today.
Devale: Yes ma'am even though you gone fold soon as she drop a tear.
Crystal: That's the problem, niether one of yall take me seriously.
Devale: I do take you seriously but some of this is your fault. She's a mini you, especially that stubbornness and mouth.
Crystal: No sir. That coldness and saying whatever in the moment comes directly from you. Her stubbornness and mouth don't bother me because she's just trying to find her voice but to do something I specifically told her not to do is where I draw the line.
Devale: Understood, but you need to keep that same energy at all times, not just when she's pisses you off.
Crystal: I do keep that same energy, you just be doing to much. She go low and you go to hell. Then I have to intervene because you be losing it on her.
Devale: You make it sound like I beat my daughter. She's a child and children need discipline.
Crystal: They also need room to grow and make mistakes without getting hands laid on them, especially little girls.
Devale: I barely yell at her, you're projecting just like you did in therapy.
Crystal: You're justifying semi abusive behavior just like you did in therapy.
Devale: Semi abusive? I'm not abusive to you or my daughter.
Crystal: But you are, you just don't want to hear it. I'm telling you that you can be emotionally abusive and when your are really angry you can be semi physically abusive.
Devale: You're the the perfect parent and partner though?
Crystal: I never claimed to be, I have my flaws which you consistently pointed out yesterday but my children don't flinch when I raise my voice. Can you say the same?
Devale: You're still exaggerating, but I'm working on my temper.
Crystal: We both are, we have to remember to give each other grace.
Devale: You're right. I just feel like I lost you and I don't know how to get you back.
Crystal: You haven't lost me, I'm right here. Shit gets rocky sometimes but I'm not going anywhere. You still give me butterflies, and I love this little family you've given me. I can't wait to get married and have more babies with you.
