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Advice Request
This girl exchanged numbers with a boy at a party (he initiated the act). They've been texting for a while, but she feels as though she is bothering him.

Answered Submission
If he was the one who asked to exchange numbers in the first place, that means he is interested in you. If this is the case, why would you think you are bothering him? Is it, perhaps, you have gotten to know him and vice versa, so he doesn't seem to like you after he got to know you? Ask yourself: What is it that is making me feel like I am bothering him, and how can I find out whether I am right or not? If I am, what can I do to fix this problem—or am I able to fix it at all? All of these questions are essential to building your relationship with him. Sometimes, we think we are annoying people, but, really, it's just our insecurity getting in the way, so get to the core problem and solve it! (:

If you feel like you really are bothering him, and you aren't the problem, then you need to take action and do something about it. You can sit here all day long and think about all of this, or you can be straightforward with him and ask him what he thinks. The Advice Column Team believes in the importance of communication, so do yourself a favor and be straightforward with him! Guys usually like it better when girls are straightforward with them, so send him a quick message. Express your feelings and explain to him why you feel that way. Then, ask him whether you truly are bothering him or not. If he says you aren't, then believe him and make sure to drop the subject, because if you don't, then that might bother him. If he says you are, then ask him why he feels that way and what you can do to help solve this problem.

To conclude, don't assume things but rather find out whether your thoughts are true or not. If they are, then solve the problem through communication, and if they are not, then continue to message him with no harm!

We wish you the best of luck!

The Advice Column Team