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Confessions of a former "3rd wave" feminist

It makes me cringe to even have to use the term "3rd wave" now. Let me first say that I'm not referring to those who are reasonable and are actually advocates of gender equality in this letter. In fact, I don't even call those people "feminists" anymore. Feminism used to be reasonable, you know, back when we were just asking for the right to vote, and to have equal opportunity in the work place and all, but it's turned into something insane. I remember being a "third wave" feminist, and I remember how miserable I was. I remember believing that so many men were sexist and out to make our lives miserable. I remember feeling so sorry for myself and HATING being a woman. I remember viewing myself as a victim. Then, I got sick of feeling so awful about something I have little control over (my gender) so I decided to take my life into my own hands and started being the person I wanted to be, not the person people were telling me I should be. Once I stopped listening to the things that were "sexist", I began to feel better. I simply can't describe how wonderful it felt to let go of that victim mentality and to take control of my life instead of feeling sorry for myself. I just felt this heavy load lift off of me.

I just wish these 3rd wave feminists could feel the same freedom I feel. They are miserable, as I was, and misery loves its company, so they want to make men miserable too. But you 3rd wave feminists need to realize that it will not make you feel any better. The only thing that will make you feel better is changing the way you think. It's time to let go of this victim mentality because the only person you're hurting is yourself. You really don't need to let any sexism you see dictate your life or define you. The dark truth is that 3rd wave feminism is NOT empowering women at all, but actually dragging women down, destroying their self-esteem and making them feel terrible about themselves (then masquerading as the one and only savior of these women) so they will buy into the lies of the 3rd wavers.

With that being said, I leave you with a song that talks about miserable people wanting others to be miserable with them. It's called "Cynics and Critics" by Icon for Hire. It's a fun song so enjoy :P

With love,

a former 3rd wave feminist.