The Art of Letting Go

Chapter 18 Mind your own Problem

single

It's complicated

In a relationship

Are you familiar with social media ethics? If no better listen. Surprisingly, many people after their breakup would change immediately their status on their social media account/s – from in a relationship to single. There's nothing wrong about it but what is the itch in changing it immediately? It's like broadcasting to the whole world about your breakup and that you are single. Most of the time we fail to consider what we call social media ethics. Meaning that not everything what is happening in your life should be posted on social media. Your life especially your love life – petty fights, anger and breakup – is not for public consumption. We can post about ourselves and activities but those that are considered private and classified should not be posted. It is okay in informing the people about you and you relationship status but here's the catch. It will definitely catch attention of people who are stalking you. It will create a small attention of curious people who want either to woo you or destroy you.

Moreover, almost 95% of your friends at your social media account don't care about what is happening to your life. Also, social media accounts/ sites are not good places to vent out emotions especially after a breakup. Mudslinging, blackmailing, or posting something against your ex doesn't only destroy the reputation of your ex but yours as well. Posting problems and emotions on social media accounts are most of the time signs of immaturity. Your problems, emotions and breakup don't need public attention but personal solution. Be sensitive on what you are posting on your social media accounts. Your post will definitely merit different reactions and somewhat reveals your personality. Ranting on social media accounts will not solve problems or take away the pain or heal you but definitely gather criticism.

Here is what's important. After your breakup you need to protect yourself. You should deal with the situation maturely. You should guard your privacy and reputation. Here's what you should do. After your breakup don't change your relationship status immediately to being single. Your breakup and healing process should be done discretely. There's a setting on your social media account that will give you an option to hide your relationship status. Hide it. Only keen observers such as close friends or stalkers would notice. Then set a time when to delete the photos of your ex. Post only what is helpful things like post a picture of your family and friends after going out on a date or outing. Never post pictures of you drinking with your friends with the caption 'MOVIN ON PARTY', or either place them on private setting.

You might be not still getting the point why is there such a strict rule on social media accounts. Again, let me reiterate. PROTECT YOURSELF AND GUARD YOUR EMOTIONS. You don't want to inform and involve the whole world of your breakup and moving on stage. You don't want to attract too much attention for it will not help. Your healing process should be done in privacy. During this time we are guarding your reputation, honor and dignity as a person. May be then you are asking, how will I deal with my emotions during this time if I cannot post them? Buy a notebook, write a journal or diary of your day to day experiences. Track the progress of your healing. Writing will serve as therapy to your healing. Remember, problems need personal solution not public attention.

Bible Verse of the day:

Proverbs 17: 27 – 28

27 Those who spare their words are truly knowledgeable, and those who are discreet are intelligent.

28 Even fools, keeping silent, are considered wise; if they keep their lips closed, intelligent.