When the universe cast the seeds of insensitivity many people acquired them and mostly they are your friends, relatives and family. Insensitive people are the most difficult to handle especially during your healing process. They don't mind if they will hurt you through their actions, stories and questions. Then you ask yourself, are they really my friends and relatives?
Insensitive people will always keep you updated about your ex. His/her whereabouts, activities, adventures, and post on social media accounts. These are people who got stuck in the past and cannot move on with you. Worst, these people would react, like and comments on the post of your ex on his/her social media accounts. Out of concern and sensitivity's sake, they should not do those things. They should be assisting you in your healing process and not to serve as hindrances. Yes, we have friends, relatives and family members who are insensitive.
To make the story worst, they will show you the post of your ex. When this happened to me it was December 23. The impact of seeing the post of my ex missing her boo sadden me and it vibrated towards my core. During the Christmas evening, still in pain and lying at my bed, I was looking at the internet cables on the ceiling. They look too friendly and wanting to wrap around my neck. See the disruption and destruction my friend did to me while on self-healing. To cut the long story short, I was able to get over it. Realizing I was just hurting myself already. I just brush the feeling and continue with the healing process.
If you have insensitive friends, relative and family members, during this moving on stage who keep on irritating, who needs an enemy? Now, how to deal with this insensitive people the strategy is very simple. Tell them straight to the point. 'Please, if you cannot unfriend the person for me, at least, for the love of me, don't update with my ex. It is not helping anymore'. Take note, you need self-control and a nice tone while saying this. As if you are really asking a favor. Why? They are insensitive, right? But after the conversation they will turn out to be very sensitive to your situation. Another strategy is understanding. You might probably be asking they should be the first one to understand but why me? It comes with maturity. If they cannot be at least mature enough be understanding to them. Bear with them or rather talk to them. Open up what you feel so that they would in turn understand you. There's no best way than diplomacy rather than wage war against insensitive people that you cannot win.
Bible Verse of the day:
1 Peter 3: 8 – 12
8 Finally, all of you, be of one mind, sympathetic, loving toward one another, compassionate, humble.
9 Do not return evil for evil, or insult for insult; but, on the contrary, a blessing, because to this you were called, that you might inherit a blessing.
10 For: "Whoever would love life and see good days must keep the tongue from evil and the lips from speaking deceit,
11 must turn from evil and do good, seek peace and follow after it.
12 For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears turned to their prayer but the face of the Lord is against evildoers."
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The Art of Letting Go
Non-FictionAre you in a MOVING ON stage? Are you confused and not knowing what to do? Then this book will guide you in a MATURE way of MOVING ON after a break up.
