Have you seen already on YouTube or Facebook the videos about the 'Ampalaya Monologue'? These are poets, writers, actors or students who have crafted beautiful poetry out of their bitter experience in loving. You will relate on those experiences and find them very funny. There you can see people are using their time, efforts and talents making painful situation entertaining and funny. How is that? We call it venting out.
Many of my former students and especially my friends ask me if being bitter after a breakup is considered 'normal'. I would answer, 'it depends in the type of breakup'. If it is a murderer type of break probably there's no need because it was a mutual decision. You've seen it coming and you were prepared already. There might be allowable room for bitterness but in a small quantity only. But if it's the thief type of breakup then you have the very license of being bitter.
Bitter reactions are just but normal for people who have undergone a painful breakup. Bitterness is not a sign of immaturity in itself. It is a sign that you've indeed loved the person and these reactions are offshoot of painful experiences. They came from your anger, frustration and unexplainable pain coming from your core. They are like heat or steam from cooking rice that if heat won't come out then it will burst, destroying everything. Again, they are normal reactions but should be controlled in moderation. You should also gradually lessen those reactions towards total disappearance. Too much won't heal you. Too much is poisonous not only to you but to the people around you. Bitter attitude and reactions is not helping you along the way it is just hurting you and altering your perspective and attitude in life. Those bitter reactions if prolonged will backfire at you and would eventually destroy who you are. Besides, your ex doesn't hear those bitter reaction and attitude so what is the point to prolong them? Your bitterness is not for public consumption.
Your 'Hugot Lines' are somewhat drawn from those bitter emotions. Most of them are funny but too much is annoying. Learn when to throw those punch lines and when not to. Again, bitterness is normal but too much is a sign of immaturity already. People understand that you are undergoing pain however most of the time keep the reactions to yourself. What is then the best way to deal with these emotions? Calm yourself and have a dialogue with yourself. Breathe and save those reactions for another day. Tame your tongue and emotions because sooner or later you'll be taming heart.
Bible Verse of the day:
James 1: 19 - 25
19 Know this, my dear brothers: everyone should be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath,
20 for the wrath of a man does not accomplish the righteousness of God.
21 Therefore, put away all filth and evil excess and humbly welcome the word that has been planted in you and is able to save your souls.
22 Be doers of the word and not hearers only, deluding yourselves.
23 For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks at his own face in a mirror.
24 He sees himself, then goes off and promptly forgets what he looked like.
25 But the one who peers into the perfect law of freedom and perseveres, and is not a hearer who forgets but a doer who acts, such a one shall be blessed in what he does.
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The Art of Letting Go
Non-FictionAre you in a MOVING ON stage? Are you confused and not knowing what to do? Then this book will guide you in a MATURE way of MOVING ON after a break up.
