Kelly and Stella : Coming Back Together Again

Couples Therapy

Stella and Kelly have their couples therapy appointment this morning. They are heading there straight from dropping Brandon and Ella off at school. Roman who's a couple weeks old now will be tagging along with them for the appointment

As they got to the office and headed in Roman needed to be fed so Stella got out one of the bottles she has pumped and had Kelly feed him while they waited on getting called back. "Are we on the same page about everything that's going to be discussed today" Stella asked him. "If it's what we discussed last night that we would be talking about then yes" Kelly told her. "Then yes. Do you have anything you want to add to it though" Stella said. "No I'm not really sure what we could" Kelly told her. "Me neither but just wanted to make sure" Stella said as they got called back

"Oh my goodness he's so beautiful. Congratulations on another little one to you both" Amy said. "Thank you" they both replied before sitting down. "How have things been since our last visit" Amy asks them. "On our relationship forefront for the most part really good. Life has gotten really chaotic though and a lot has happened in our lives for sure" Kelly told her. "To say it changed quick and very dramatically definitely would somehow be an understatement but as a couple we're doing good. I think the circumstances that have surrounded us has really brought us to become even more of a unit or at least to really lean into it" Stella told her. "Which one of you would like to start with filling me in and getting us started" Amy asked. "I'll start. My mom, Stella, and Violet went for a girls weekend to the cabin and my mom and Stella got into a little bit of a argument but it was more really just Stella getting attacked by my mom. My mom since then has continuously made it a point to talk shit about Stella and our relationship. Here about a week ago now I cut her completely out of our lives because I'm not going to have our relationship or Stella disrespected. Stella has also been having insecurity issues and has began to project it onto our relationship at certain times especially in the last couple weeks. Another thing is in the last couple weeks since the baby we also can't have sex which is fine I completely understand why we can't but she has specifically asked me a few times to be more touchy with her while we can't have sex at the moment because it keeps that flame going but then when I try to she completely changes her tune to how she doesn't want to be touched or it's to much to please stop which would be fine too if you didn't literally ask for it because you want it. On my forefront I think I still could use some work in the understanding department honestly. I can understand a lot and make sense all that stuff but then stuff like her wanting to be touched then quickly be like oh actually no no don't do that or the stuff with my mom Stella keeps trying to give her compassion for it and I just can't imagine being that way about it with the way she's talking and sometimes as parents we disagree because of our different approaches and sometimes I can stop and see it from her view the others I just can't fathom it. I think that sometimes it even ties into more than just not understanding but just failure to be able to stop in the moment and think something through to be able to understand it" Kelly told her. "Dang y'all weren't kidding when y'all said so much has changed in such short time. Stella do you want to add anything to what he said" Amy said. "Not that I can think of. I think he really said it all" Stella said. "Ok just wanted to make sure before we dive right into it. Which thing would y'all like to talk about first" Amy said. "Jennifer" Stella said. "I agree. That's really our biggest surrounding issue and I think the true root of a lot of what's going on with her right now" Kelly said

"Alright so take me back to the girls weekend Stella. What was said at that time and how did you react" Amy said. "We were talking about mine and Kellys relationship now and now happier we both are than we used to be. She started by telling me that I have no idea how much he beats himself up for that time period in our life and not being able to make our family stay together at the time which she isn't fully wrong about. She then went on about according to her I was the one that made the mistake of leaving him and would only ever look back and regret it. She told me and Kelly that I will only be with Kelly until I find someone that fucks good and loves my kids before preceding to talk about how she knew I would crawl back because apparently according to her despite being alone for 3 1/2 years I can't be alone. I won't lie I did say some things in response that maybe I shouldn't have or maybe it was just in the delivery of what I said because it's not that I was necessarily wrong about it but it's something that due to how I said it shouldn't have left my mouth" Stella said. "Woah she had some really strong choice of words. I know how hard you both have worked to get here today so I'm very proud of the both of you I think you both might need to hear that because it's definitely not been an easy road. When she told you things how did that make you feel Stella" Amy said. "Thank you for that. It's definitely not been easy but I wouldn't change a thing honestly. At the time it really hurt as I think unfortunately it was supposed to. The way she talked reminded me a lot of how my mom, dad ,and Grant used to talk to me so to be completely honest it was kinda a trigger of sorts and brought a couple things I thought I was past back up in a manner that let me know I'm actually not" Stella said. "I can understand that about it being a trigger completely. To be talked to in some of the ways she did you is not a way that sticks with us for good reasons and you've had 3 people in your life that did nothing but speak to you in that manner to make it a trigger for you" Amy said. "Those other 3 would take it a lot farther than Jennifer did at the time for sure but it definitely took me back to feeling the same way I did when they would say things like that" Stella said. "Let me change gears to Kelly. When she told you everything how did you feel about it" Amy asks. "To be completely honest it pissed me off and confused me. My mom has always been a supportive person in my life and even very notably me and Stella specifically when we were apart and were first getting back together. She ticked me off though at the same time because of how she was talking about her. Some part of me did feel bad on her behalf though because my mom might not know even half of everything between us and about Stellas past before me but I do and know how much that bothered her" Kelly told her. "When you talked to her again did she say anything about it" Amy asks. "Well Stella had stepped out for space and called me when it was happening. My mom wound up stepping out there and getting on the phone and doubled down on everything and went on about how she couldn't believe I was taking up for Stella instead of her as my mom so she got to talk to me pretty quickly" Kelly said. "Do you think that had you been there your mom would have done it" Amy asks him. "Honestly I'm not sure because I didn't ever really expect her to do it ever" Kelly said. "I think that you both have handled it well from the sounds of how it all got handled especially with her touching tough subjects and making Kelly choose between Stella or his mom. Is that the only time she's said anything" Amy said. "It was an easy decision on me picking Stella every time always. No it wasn't the only time or we'd be giving her another chance right now not having just cut her off" Kelly said. "Would y'all like to share the other instances" Amy said. "Yes because those have been the root of a lot with me. When Kelly went to get the kids one morning after we had us a date night she told him I was being a coward in not coming with him to get the kids to which he defended me in. After I gave birth her, Richard, and the kids came up there and she kept making sly little comments but then preceded to accuse me of cheating multiple times did she double down on that one and tried to tell me Roman is named after a side piece when really he's named after my uncle to which Kelly defended me again from her on that too" Stella said. "I'm really glad that Kelly defended you because I remember a time Kelly would not have dared. I'm proud of you" Amy said. "Thank you so much" Kelly said. "Stella I heard you say a lot of your now issues within your self stemmed from those specific comments so what exactly was it and please allude" Amy said

"I've been insecure about my body for a long time honestly but it's been really bad since Ella. Pregnancy again hasn't helped that either to be honest. Kelly does a great job of trying really hard to make sure I feel beautiful but my mind took what she said about me cheating and completely twisted it. My mind went to what if he's cheating and she knows it and is projecting his doing onto me then a couple days after that he had an ex text him it was totally about work come to find out and he didn't even respond but I also ran with that and made it something it wasn't" Stella said. "Has Kelly ever given you reason to think he might step out on you" Amy asks. "Honestly no and I know neither one of ever will. It was just my head making it all something it wasn't due to my own insecurity with myself" Stella said. "Is there anything specifically that has made you be insecure or have you been cheated on before" Amy asks. "My body insecurity goes all the way to the way my mom and dad talked to me growing up before they passed and then it continued for many years after that once I got with Grant. Me and Grant were together 2 years but he cheated the entire time we were together with multiple women" Stella told her. "So this stems from things that go way back then this might be something we need to explore more of in individual therapy. In the meantime though when it gets ugly and your mind goes wild with the possibility of indefinitely or him leaving you and your mind is deceiving you of all these things is there anything that Kelly can do to help you in the moment" Amy said. "I definitely think it's something we need to dive into in solo therapy for sure because here lately it has really reared it's head pretty badly to be completely honestly. As far as Kelly being able to help and what he could do honestly just reassure me is about it which he does amazing with already" Stella said. "That's definitely fine by me if that's something that needs worked on soon. Kelly said something earlier about you saying we stuff about wanting to be touched then as soon as he goes to do it you back him off. Is this something related to your insecurity issues with your body or something completely different" Amy said. "It's my body insecurity since the baby" Stella said. "That's definitely the thing we need to work on soon then. Unfortunately we are out of time for todays appointment but I look forward to seeing you both for your individual sessions next week" Amy said. "Thank you so much and I agree about it needing to be something we talk about next week" Stella said. "Thank you so much" Kelly told her before they left and headed home. Once the other two kids got out of school they all went to the park for a few before heading home for the night.

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